Most of the women who are close friends of mine are sexual, sweet, affectionate women with BIG hearts. Sounds good, right? Kinda. If you're a woman with a big heart you tend to give love all day long to everyone around you. It's natural for us. On the downside, if you're not careful there's nothing left of you at the end of the day. That means we not only need to refuel but we also need to receive love and affection from those we love. This can't be a one-sided thing.

I know we're supposed to be strong women who love ourselves and take good care of ourselves. And we are. But if you're also an affectionate, sexual woman there's an empty place in your life that can't be filled by anything other than the affection of the man you love. It's true. Sometimes I wish it wasn't. But it is.

Unfortunately, some men tend to take sweet, affectionate, loving women for granted. I mean, we're strong. We're always there when he needs us. We're forgiving. We're compassionate. We're positive. We're always in a good mood. And because of this, many times we’re left behind. Somehow, some way, we end up last place on our men's daily list of priorities, which means we receive little or no affection in return. You know what? We deserve better treatment. We do!

I've been receiving letters in the last week from women like this. Loving, sexual, sweet, giving women who are terribly lonely in their relationships, because the men they love have put them last place on their list of priorities. There's always some crisis or some reason why they can't give the women they "love" the affection and time they need every day.

Ladies, we deserve better. We deserve to be recognized for what we are: a treasure. We deserve a man who will put us first place on his list of priorities NO MATTER WHAT. I don't care how busy or crazy his life is. If he truly loves you he will make room for you every day. And I'm not talking 10 minutes of time. I mean all the time you need. Why? Because he loves and values you.

So don't give up and settle for less. No more excuses for these guys. You can find the time in your stressful, multitasking life for your man. He should be able to do the same for you if he says he loves you.

Do everything you can to make your relationship work. But if it doesn't, don't give up on yourself. Like I said, don’t settle for less. When this happens it’s easy to think you failed. You didn’t. The truth is it takes two to make a relationship work. If he isn’t willing to put in the time and effort, you can’t do this for him.

However, never doubt there are men who will treasure you and spoil you with all the affection you deserve every day. If you’re single you've just got to get out there so they can find you. Or maybe he's been in your life for a while, quietly waiting for you to recognize him. Hey, it happens. In fact, it happened to me.

So sometimes the man of your dreams is someone you already know. And sometimes the man of your dreams is your man who just needs to get a clue. No matter what, it all starts with you. When you stop settling for less than you deserve everything changes.