For lesbians, it can be quite hard to find a partner. Either the lesbian community is very small and then you don’t have many options, or you already know everyone, and everyone knows everyone. Then it’s one of those "that girl is the ex of my ex" kind of situations.

The LGBTQ community usually has more activities, more parties, and more gathering which are specifically for gay males. It’s also harder to tell in real life whether a girl is interested in other girls or not. There are certain lesbian stereotypes, but like all stereotypes, they are not necessarily true. Femme lesbians have the most trouble with this, because they are perceived by other queer girls as a heterosexual woman. It’s also very confusing when you are attending an LGBTQ party, and you start flirting with a girl, buying her drinks, talking to her… Only to hear the infamous "Oh, you’re great, but I’m straight and I have a boyfriend." That sentence has broken so many hearts. My advice: If you are a lesbian, avoid curious straight girls at all costs. It always ends badly.

So, how can we avoid these disasters? For lesbians, dating sites and dating apps are crucial. Even for just a hook-up or a one night stand, lesbian dating sites and apps are of great importance. For example, Tinder is great, but you don’t have a wide range of options when it comes to specifying what you are looking for. It doesn’t have many options for a gay woman. Okcupid on the other hand does have more options for queer women. You can even take tests, you can check out what someone’s interests are, and you can see what they are looking for all in one go.

Another app, exclusively for queer women, is called HER. The only negative thing about this app is that it’s not available everywhere. I’ve heard great things about it, so if you are a single lesbian looking for sex, long term or short term dating, a hook up, or whatever it is that you are searching for… If possible, try to use the HER app.

When it comes to websites, there are a few that stand out, and that I have heard good things about. For example, onescene.com. They claim to be an internation gay and lesbian dating community. It’s free to join, and they offer desktop apps, mobile apps, and browser apps in order to keep in touch with whoever you are talking to where ever you are. The only negative is that it’s not a website that is exclusive for lesbians.

But here is a website that is: pinkcupid.com. They claim that they are a leading lesbian dating website and that they have helped out thousands of lesbian singles to find their match. Another website that queer women can use is girlfriendsmeet.com. On this site you can chat, like photos and meet other women with the same interests as you very easily. They claim to be an exciting casual dating and social network for lesbians, bisexuals, and bi curious women.