He was not a good husband material as you previously thought. Due to one reason or the other you found out that you were never meant for each other. You amicably ended the relationship and now you refer each other as ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend. Time heals even the deepest wounds so your broken relationship has been transformed to great friendship. You consider adding special benefits to your friendship with no emotional attachments. Your different goals and temperaments could not allow you to settle down as a couple and you clearly understand this. Despite the failed relationship you still find each other affectionate and attractive. Given such circumstances you can have sex with your ex-lover if there is no confusion or any form of lingering issues.

There are times you meet your ex-lover and the maturity and responsibility in them shakes back the chemistry you shared sometime back. If you notice some positive changes in your ex-lover you can give him/her a second chance to make it work. May be he was rumored to be dating somebody else while you were in college and you drifted apart. If you reconnect after around ten years and find out that the outside world knocks have changed him, give it a shot. If you meet at a vacation center and he seems ready for an adult relationship, you can throw the caution to the wind and have sex with your ex-lover. It is after all what you will be doing for many nights after this meeting.

If you certainly had a superb relationship with your ex-lover, getting back to the relationship is simple and exciting. If you have already shared good experiences together, you are tremendously reassured of good times ahead. The momentum is built on the basis of optimism which enables the partners to risk a part of themselves. You risk a part of yourselves by having sex with your ex-lover not knowing whether it will turn out to be disastrous. Sex might make you to become more interested in mending the relationship than you would be under different circumstances. Your consent to allow the chemistry flow might encourage you to get into a relationship you would not have given a chance.

You can have sex with your ex-lover if you are completely over him or her. Only for old times sake. May be your navigation towards road to recovery is wonderfully smooth and you want to scream your head off with sexual pleasure shared with your ex-lover. There is no foul, there is no harm whatsoever. On the other hand, if your road to recovery is unbearably bumpy, you are not ready to venture into love and life adventures. In such a state, you are advised to stay out of bed with your ex-lover. It will only aggravate the already bad matter. Have sex with your ex-lover if you know that you can handle life without him in the future. If you have any doubts please do not entertain him/her.