If you have just been dumped and wondering how to save your relationship and get back with your ex, then it's important to contain any feelings of panic and desperation.

Easier said than done right but the truth is, unless you temper any desperate thoughts about how you can get your ex to see some sense and take you back you can basically kick your relationship goodbye.

Relationships expert T W Jackson says the key to experiencing the magic of making up is to simply walk away or take some time out.

Yes, it's got to be one of the toughest things you can do but unless you create some space between you and your ex then it's virtually all downhill from here on end. The truth is, you've been dumped for a very good reason in the eyes of your ex and no matter how harshly you feel you've been done by, you've got to let it go.

What Not To Do When You Get Dumped

If you want to know how to save your relationship then it's important to understand what you shouldn't do before starting the reconciliation process.

If you avoid some of the things we are about to mention, then you can avoid that feeling of having the noose around your neck tightening the more you struggle. Let's face it, isn't that what it feels like.

No matter how hard you try and make your ex see the error of their ways the more that invisible rope tightens. It feels like you are fighting a losing battle and reality is, you are.

So here's how to keep that noose around your neck from tightening and eventually removed:

• Stop trying to force the issue. You've been dumped and there's nothing you can do or say to change your ex's mind for the time being.

• Stop calling them. Stop emailing or text messaging them. They dumped you because they want a break from you. Right at this moment, you are the last person they want to hear from.

• Don't harass their friends or family for information or to get sympathy. Ask yourself this, in a crunch, whose side are they likely to be on?

• Avoid the temptation to present yourself at places your ex likes to hang out. This is a big no-no.

• Avoid the sympathy vote method. In other words, forget telling your ex how much you miss them and you cannot go on without them. This doesn't work and is ugly behavior and anyone who tells you it's a foolproof way on how to save your relationship is kidding themselves.