What is the worst thing you, as a woman, can do in your trying to get your ex boyfriend back? You should never be or act desperate. It is time to focus on what caused your relationship to fail. It is not the time to act like you are a spoiled brat, no matter the reason for the breakup.

So how should you act if you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back? First, you need to be strong both mentally and spiritually. You can do this by examining everything about yourself and the romance at a glance. Get out of the house and start going out with friends that you might have neglected when you were a couple. As time passes, you become secure in yourself and you, once again, start to stand on your own two feet. By recreating yourself on the inside, people including your ex boyfriend have a chance to see this. This can lead to your ex boyfriend loving and wanting you once again.

The second thing you should do is move past those feelings of transgressions your ex boyfriend did. Once you have found yourself, you may have gotten some new insight on this past relationship. Never think that this change is the only way to get your ex boyfriend back. It is process of several things but rediscovering you and forgiving him are two very important things, which need to be changed before any attempts.

Some bad habit women tend to make in getting their ex boyfriend back is becoming too clingy. It is habit that should be rectified immediately before it runs him off again. Both of you should assert your independence and spend time with other people. Being together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week leads to resentment and the likelihood of breaking up once again.

If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back, do the positive little things that you both loved to do in the beginning of your relationship. If there was something he would do, remind him of it without being so pompous. If there was a place you both called your own, take a visit again. Let him know by phone or e-mail (not in person) that visiting the place reminded you of him. Don’t sound needy when you tell him! Above all, you must remember that this second go around relationship has to be gradual. If you jump right into it, it will not work.

The most important thing women need to remember when attempting to get their ex boyfriend back is to be themselves. Do not act like someone you are not because eventually your true self with break through. This could send him packing!

If you find out your ex boyfriend is in another relationship, do not for your own sanity, trying to get him back. Bitterness could set in complicating any kind of reconcile, whether it is friendship or relationship.

Never sleep with a friend of his as a way to get back at him. This also complicates matters. Try to make a man jealous so he will come back to you never works. If you act happy whenever he is around, sooner or later, it will be true. Not only that if you do, it will show him that you can move on.

If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you can let him know that you miss him but do not overdo it. You should be confident in yourself and be strategic when doing what may be the impossible… getting your ex boyfriend to notice you one more time.