When people have been dumped, it’s not hard to do something stupid for the sake of love. They can do things that may completely ruin their chances of getting their ex back. Those natural impulses that drive you during this painful time can actually do more harm than good. The last thing you are trying to do is push your ex further away.

There are 3 common mistakes made when people are letting emotions get in the way of common sense. If you know these steps ahead of time, then you can keep from making them or making them again. You’ll still have a chance then to get your ex back.

(1) Break off Contact – When a break up occurs, it occurs because the other person needs time away from you. Don’t go seeking out his/her attention or give them more attention than they want. Don’t speak to your ex for a month so both of you can get past the hurt that you are feeling. Use this month to heal and think.

(2) Make Changes – What does make changes mean? It means look at all the things about you that you don’t like including your attitude and personality. If you do this just for your ex, the chances of a real change won’t happen. If you get back together, only to have those attitudes and situations come back, you have lied to your ex and yourself. Thus any chances of the reconcile working has failed and you are unlikely to get a third chance.

(3) Don’t Be Aggressive – If you decide that getting him/her back is what you want after the one month period, and then don’t get aggressive in doing this. All it does is actually push them away from you and what you are seeking from them. Remember that patience is the key to getting them back. This is the period where you want to rebuild contact, communicate with them and build trust. It is a slow process but it can be done.

These 3 issues are the biggest by far that can creep up and ruin a person’s chance to get back together with their ex. If you have already committed one of them, don’t fret too much. As long as you recognize that you are doing it and stop, then you still have a chance of getting your ex back.