When you are dumped, your life can seem so miserable. All you want is to get your ex back. However, you may know that doing this can be difficult. You can’t look desperate or they won’t give you that second chance. So what are you to do?

The simple answer is: Get him or her back. However, what you need to do is find ways that don’t make you look like you are vulnerable. If you follow some simple tips, you can greatly improve your chances of getting them back. Utilizing them can help you overcome the pain your feel and also make your ex miss you like mad.

First thing you should do is avoid contact with them… the sooner, the better. This will force your ex to be on their own which may be harder than they originally thought. You may think it doesn’t alleviate your pain but it does work for you too. It gives you the time to pull yourself together. You both can’t do this if you are always seeing one another.

If you aren’t in the person’s face day in, day out, it forces them to face the repercussions of the breakup. Relationships aren’t all bad and he or she may see that it wasn’t all bad either. They probably just lost sight of those things that they once found comforting. They may start to feel very lonely and realize you are the one for him or her.

If you want him or her to see the better qualities about you, then create and rebuild a better you and rebuild your self-confidence. It won’t be long before they see it. Make a list of things that you do not like about yourself then find ways to change them. If you look at yourself and sigh, then change what you don’t like whether it’s the weight, your hair or clothing.

As long as you see these issues and are taking care of them, it makes you look all the better. Soon, you will look in that mirror once again and won’t be sighing any longer. How you look can be just as important on the outside as it is on the inside. Should your ex see you looking better and feeling better, they’ll start wondering why they ever let you get away.

If you act happy or seem as if you are moving on in life along with the changed appearance, then it makes them feel all the worse about letting you go. It won’t matter if you are still hurting so long as it looks like you are having fun. They may feel empty inside.

Once your one month is up, that doesn’t mean your ex will immediately come back to you. However, they may be more open to listen to what you have to say. If you feel good, look good and are getting the attention you want from others, you can get your ex back. It’s a positive influence for getting over that pain you are feeling, no matter what.