If you are like most people who are carrying a torch for an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, you are probably wondering, "does my ex still love me?" After all, it can be difficult to believe that you can care for someone so very much and they can be so totally oblivious to you and your feelings.

In most cases, when someone ends a relationship with you, that's it. There is no reconciliation waiting in the wings. There are circumstances, however, where people do get back together after a break up. In such cases, the couple had a true bond and were deeply in love but outside circumstances pulled them apart. Here are

Two examples of breakups:

A guy and a girl dated for a year. They loved one another and were happy with each other. The girl's mother didn't like the guy because she thought he was too wild.

He got in trouble for drinking underage and her mother said she couldn't see him any longer. The girl was not the type to disobey her mother and was also disappointed in the guy. She broke up with him.

Another guy and girl dated for four months. The guy really liked her at first but she kept pushing for more in the relationship. He had just gotten out of a relationship and didn't want to get heavily involved with anyone. And although he liked her, he just didn't love her and knew he never would. One day, he finally got the nerve to tell her he didn't want to see her anymore.

Both the two her were split from wondered "does my ex still love me?" The first guy couldn't imagine his ex throwing away a whole year of their lives where they did so much together and were both truly in love. When he found out she was going out with someone else, his heart was broken. He worked on cleaning up his act, becoming a better student and staying in touch periodically with her as a friend.

The second girl couldn't believe that he didn't love her because her own feelings for him were inflated. She was more in love with the idea of being in love than with him. She felt humiliated by his rejection and wanted to alleviate that pain

by "getting him back." Did she love him? How could she - they only dated for four months. She was hurt and lonely.

The first guy and girl got back together. The second girl kept calling and e-mailing her ex until she eventually healed and discovered that he didn't love her, nor did he ever.

The main component to the "does my ex still love me?" that can answer that question is if your ex loved you in the first place. If you were both in love with one another, dated or were married for a significant period of time and outside circumstances broke you up, there is a chance to rekindle the relationship.

If, however, you had no relationship except one that was in your head, had a brief romance and never were "in love" it is fruitless to try to rekindle the relationship because there was nothing there in the first place.