Relationship repair is not easy. Part of this is because while dealing with a relationship that has gone south, one get depressed which can lead to not only anxiety but maybe something even worse, including alcohol or substance abuse. You want to fix the relationship, but it seems so complex that it leaves a lot of us just hanging our heads and giving up. It is imperative that you get help as soon as possible to help with the relationship fix, before it is too late.

The problem s many couples face, is that they try a lot of things to get back a once happy relationship, but nothing seems to work. And this turns into arguments, and feelings of futility and hopelessness. This does not have to be the cause. Just like with everything else in life, relationship repair is a learning process. That is why I suggest looking to the professionals to assist. Instead of relying on fixing the relationship by yourself, swallow your pride (obviously nothing has worked up until now or you wouldn't be reading this). There are many books out there that deal with the information and tools needed to get that relationship back to where it was.

Conflicts can com from physical or psychological problems in either person. One key issue that continues to cause problems is the difference in opinion when parenting. That certainly was the case with me. The wife and I were always on the opposite ends of the spectrum when it came to parenting. The books that are available help each person in the relationship to understand all the issues that exist and can help each person get to the bottom of what is truly causing these conflicts which can, in turn, help in repairing the relationship for good.

The key to having this all work, is both need to agree that help is needed, beyond trying to repair the relationship on their own. It is important that both are ready to work at it and learn what needs to be done to get that spark back. Understanding each other's difference and what fuels these conflicts is the crucial part for getting back on track.

Most likely you and your partner are causing the core problems in your relationship yourselves because of your poor communication patterns, continuing conflicts, intermittent estrangements or even sexual problems. Since your relationship with your partner is fundamental, it will be necessary for both of you to change your underlying communication patterns.

Goal-setting is the second stage of treatment. At this stage, you and your counselor specify the behavioral changes which you believe are necessary to repair the relationship. These can include increases in empathy, the use of skilled problem-solving methods, the demonstration of appreciation and the more frequent use of forgiveness.

The last stage of this important process is implementation-putting what you have learned into action. This stage includes the creation of a fast and easy-to-use program which will get you and your partner from where you are to where you WANT to be.