How do you win back your ex girlfriend after both of you have broken up? Though many do not like to admit, guys have a hard time dealing with a breakup just as much as woman does. All too often men are viewed as hard, cold and unfeeling brutes that can go on with life easier than a woman can. However, this feeling is simply untrue.

Men do suffer from the breakup pain that women do and they have to get over it, just like a woman does. However, if they want to get past the pain of it all, then they have to have specific plan to beat the bad feelings.

Men may find it tough to get through to a woman who has decided to end the relationship. However, if men can think before they act, they may find the road of winning back their ex girlfriend easier. There are 3 steps designed to help men out.

(1) Avoiding Aggressive Talk

If you want to talk to your ex girlfriend the best thing you need to do is speak in an even light tone. If you put pressure on the situation when you speak with her, chances are that she won’t listen to anything you have to say. You may be trying to say something important but if you say it harshly, she is bound not to listen and turn away from you completely. That is for sure.

Does this mean she has no more feelings for you? Not true at all. It just means she can't stand you for the aggressive tone when you talk to her. The relationship likely ended due to the amount of stress she had to deal with. It’s likely the stress she feels will be related with you. If you don’t want her assumptions to be correct, you need to tone down your voice and be gentle when you talk to her.

(2) Be Positive

Men have a problem with coping with life after a breakup. However, it’s just as important for them to get up and get out living life. Even if they don’t feel like it, they should get out with friends. Go to places that are popular. When a man goes out in public, they need to make sure they look their best. It wouldn’t hurt to get some attention from other women. If a man wants to win back his ex girlfriend and get her attention, date a woman or two. It’s not a bad thing to start mixing around again.

A woman who sees her ex out enjoying their life without them in it could become slightly jealous. Not only women feel this way but men do feel this way too. Women are competitive by nature and seeing the ex with another woman can drive her nuts. She’ll start to think about all the reasons she let the man go and find them pretty dumb. She may look at him in a different light. That’s not necessarily a bad thing to get his ex girlfriend's attention though it’s not likely to win her back just yet.

(3) Avoid Negative Behavior

It’s common for people to feel heartbroken after being dumped. However, the last thing anyone should ever do is turn to alcohol or drugs to get over the person who did the dumping. Any effect of these negative outlets is short-term and can keep a person from doing the right thing. In fact, drunk dialing could occur which means a person leaves voicemail after voicemail begging for a second chance.

When does the person remember what they were doing? In the morning after the damage has been done. When a man or woman leaves a message in such an unflattering sort of way, it does nothing for them. In fact, all it confirms is that they were glad to have gotten rid of the baggage. This is not what any man wants to be treated like.

When these 3 steps are followed a man has the greater chance to get back with the woman who dumped him in the first place. If a man want to win back his ex girlfriend, it’s important to know the negative behaviors that hamper those chances.