When you have been dating a woman for sometime, you may be shocked when they just suddenly dump you without a good reason. It may shake your confidence and self-esteem whether you believe it or not. Men are depicted as a strong brute that can get through anything but this just is not true. A man has much pride and feelings too. When a woman or a man is dumped, it can hurt as equally. I know how you feel but don’t fret. You can win back your ex girlfriend so long as you know what you are doing but not because you want to get back at her.

Can this be difficult? Yes it can be. However, developing a plan before you attempt to do this can help you in the pursuit. There are 3 things to keep in mind when you try to win back your ex girlfriend.

First off, you do not want to appear desperate wanting to know what make her decide to leave you. If you become overly aggressive trying to win back her affections, you’ll end up scaring her away for good. Even though you are in pain, chances are so is she. Begin the lines of communication with patient slowly. If you want to win her heart back, you need to have patient. Being under stress and adding more stress to the mess can make anyone hightail it away from the stress culprit.

Second, continue to go out with your group of friends. Show your ex that you can have a good time without her in your life. She doesn’t even have to be present for you to make an impact. If you continue to have a good time out in public, chances are she’ll get wind of it and become slightly jealous and start to find out more. Is she doing better than you? Probably she is not. Why? Breakups can take a toll on both persons. If you can show her that your life can go on without her, she’s likely to call you up again.

She’ll begin to think that she made a mistake in breaking up with you. She’s more likely to come back to you with open arms and an open mind. Next, you have the option to let your ex girlfriend back into your arms and heart if you still feel you need her back. You have the choice to choose if she is really what you want in your life. That time apart typically sheds new light on the relationship and you may find yourself choosing not to be with her after all.

Third, don’t turn to negative outlets that can lower your thought process. When loneliness hits, it can be natural to turn towards alcohol and sometimes drugs too. Yet, these outlets can lead to you making devastating consequences such as drunk dialing. What is drunk dialing? It’s that overnight call you make when you are high on drugs or drink too much whisky, bourbon or other alcohol beverage. You pour your heart out on the phone to them or their voicemail. You think you are doing some good but in actuality, you’re only confirming what she suspects: you’re desperate.

You may not remember making this phone call but she’ll certainly hear it. It’s naïve to think that a message of love will win back your ex girlfriend's heart. The chances that she’ll tell her friends are good and you’ll become the laughing stock of her friends and perhaps yours too. Stay away from these outlets if you want a chance to win her back.

These tips seem pretty straightforward but they are just the beginning. In reality, winning back your ex girlfriend can be difficult. It just takes some time and patience to accomplish.