Entering a matrimonial relationship can be the turning point of anybody’s life. Especially in Indian scenario, where the culture of arranged marriages is so widespread, marriage could be a real gamble. How does one come to the conclusion that this is the right person to get married to? How does one finally decide to enter a matrimonial relationship? What should be considered and what should be avoided? These are the questions that boggle the mind when one is about to give the final nod. Although, there is no sure shot formula, yet there are a few things that can act as common pointers.

However, even in arranged marriages, one can take the opportunity of courtship period to determine if the prospective life partner is right for you or not. Be it online matrimony or marriage arranged through an acquaintance, it is absolutely essential to establish the compatibility between the would-be bride and the groom.

Compatibility does not mean how much you have in common. In fact, at times people with polar attitudes and extremely opposite likes and dislikes make very happily married couples. Compatibility in matrimony suggests how much you can remain in harmony despite being as different as you are. Respecting each other and how the other person make you feel in different situations should be taken into consideration before taking the final plunge into a matrimonial relationship.

Sometimes, it is easier to know what you don’t want in a matrimonial relationship that what you want. For example, one can easily say that one doesn’t want to marry someone who drinks too much, uses drugs, indulges in illegal behaviour, or is unfaithful, irresponsible, or dishonest. But it Is not easy to say what one really wants and what will make marriage a truly happy lifetime experience.

Don’t jump into a decision before giving it considerable thought and evaluating all aspects of the situation. Marriage does not just mean filling a void, it means spending your whole life with someone worthwhile and the one who makes you feel great. Matrimonials generally talk about the clichéd attributes of a person. However, the real success of marriage depends on what lies behind those words.

While physical attraction is a must, it should not become a blinding factor or the most overriding factor. It must be remembered that physical attraction subsides very quickly while what remains is the real persona of the person in a matrimonial relationship. Open communication, sense of humour, respect for each other, giving each other space is what really matters in marriage. These are the factors that make a marriage last.

Having said this, it is also true that some degree of attraction is must for a relationship to last. If you do not find the person attractive at all, it would be foolish to force it. Don’t take a hasty decision and try to find out more about the person. It is important to know how he/she handles a crisis situation or how the person behaves with you after you do a mistake to establish how your matrimonial relationship will look like. Some people even advise that it should be observed how a girl behaves with her dad and a boy behaves with his mother to have an idea of how he/she will behave with you in life.

If you start feeling that there can be sustainable trust, confidence in each other and respect as life partners, then you are on the right track to find the right person to get married to. Only such a person can bring emotional sustainability and personal strength to your life. Obviously, the right person would never let you down or make you feel negative, embarrassed or disrespected. It is not necessary to agree to everything with each other but it is important to respectfully agree to disagree. The right person will give you your space, give you the liberty to take decisions, encourage you to be in control of your life. Once you can establish that these are the things your partner I swilling to offer you in matrimony, you can be sure you have found the right person.

While all these are personality traits, it is also important to find out that the person you are marrying is considerate and agreeable to what you want and desire when it comes to sex and affection. Sexual compatibility is as important to marital happiness as any other thing.

Once you are sure about all the things and decide to get married, be ready to nurture your relationship with love and care. There will always be difficulties in the matrimonial path but that should not deter you from looking at the overall goodness of your relationship. Finding the right person is important but equally important is developing the right attitude to sustain a healthy and successful matrimonial relationship.