If you have recently been dumped, you’re probably thinking of the ways that you could get your ex girlfriend back. You probably think that showering her with all kinds of affection and going about it without a plan is best. However, that’s not true and could do more harm than good. If you need some help, here are five steps to help you let your ex know that she is still in your thoughts and the chance to get your ex girlfriend back.

First, play a little hard to get. Not too much because communications, if any, should be short and sweet. However, let her know that you care about her and would like to stay in her life. If you play too hard to get, then you ruin your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back. She’ll pull further away from you doing so.

Second, stay in touch by e-mail. Nearly everyone has e-mail these days. When you find a casual way to talk to her, it makes communicating with her much easier. You don’t have to go into a long tirade either. You can simply write, "Hey, how’s thing going on?" This is not the time to write sappy poetry and flood her e-mail with it.

Third, now is not the time to get together with another woman. That’s not to say that you can look around and see who is out there but if you really want to get your ex girlfriend back to be with you, don’t get too serious about another woman.

Fourth, it’s important to treat your ex girlfriend like a queen. One of the best ways to do this is to remember those all-important dates like anniversaries and birthdays. If you can, send her a card for her birthday. Let her know that you thought of her on her day. This can melt any woman’s heart.

Fifth, when you start calling her, do so with caution. Don’t always do it but certainly call her to let her know you are thinking of her. Ask her how she has been and what she has been up to. Let her know some things on your end so it’s not a one-way conversation. You don’t want her thinking that you’re actually hiding something. Pretty soon those little chats will have her thinking you as often as you are thinking of her.

There isn’t a clear-cut way to get back and win your ex girlfriend’s heart. You just have to gauge how she reacts to your advancements and go from there. You definitely want to stay in contact but limit it so that you don’t scare her with your advances.