Honestly, getting an ex girlfriend or boyfriend back may not be easy even if you have the best plan or strategy lay out in front of you. But you still have a choice whether to accept that the relationship is over or to win back your ex; the choice is yours.

When break ups occur, it can shake a person’s confidence. Your self-confidence is affected not only in yourselves but your confidence in dealing with people around you. Your feelings are extremely hurt but what if you had a chance to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back. How would you handle it all? Would you have the relationship start fresh or pick it back up from where you left off? Has the thought of getting back together with your ex even crossed your mind? Sure it has if the feeling is still there!

Did you know that most relationship problems can be fixed and there is always a reason why it did not worked out the way you plan? You may not realize it but most of the bigger problems come from you on the inside. You may also not realize it but the problems you have from previous relationships can affect your present one.

So what can you do to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back?

First off, leave your ex alone for a period of cooling off. If you start pursuing them right after the break up, it may lead them to put a restraining order against you or them never wanting to talk to you again. It helps to give your ex some time and space to cool down and think about what has happened. Both of you need time to think about what went wrong and each of you can figure which problem or problems you were responsible that led to the relationship demise.

Remember as much as you would like to you cannot fix what was wrong with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. It is just not possible. They have to fix their own problems. Just like only you can fix and face your inner demons. If you want to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back, each have to fix their own… you cannot do it for them.

When you are dating someone, you begin to make compromises for the ones you love. Your relationship is a matter of give and take and you should remember that to find a equality for the both of you. You want to make your partner happy so things you say and do, you are responsible whether your relationship is happy or not.

When your ex does give you a positive response, be sure to take the relationship slowly. Picking up where you left off can be damaging for the relationship. Also, do not call, email, text message or anything else on a daily basis when you are working to get back together with your ex. Do not be desperate or acting crazy to get the attention, it is definitely not going to work out for you. When you get to spend time together, be patience and try to work out those sensitive issues together.

When you want to get your ex back, you have to make some compromises and changes on the issues that caused the breaking up. Otherwise, it is no point to get back together? If you want a serious shot, just remember these simple little reminders. Also, if your ex turns out not to be your life long partner, the change and the lessons you learnt here can help you out in your future relationships.