Learn to dismiss your negative and destructive thoughts and you will be much happier. And not only will you be happier, you will also be more successful, more admired, more respected, you will attract more wealth, better health…

Wow, this sounds almost too good to be true, but how can this work? Well, let's have quick look at how your mind helps you to create your reality.

First of all, you are not your mind - you are more than your mind. But your mind is part of you, it's like a tool you can use to accomplish certain things. Your mind helps you to create- and to materialize the life you are envisioning. And this works equally for the "good" things as well as for the "bad" things you are envisioning. The mind doesn't have any preference, it simply executes your orders.

So, one thing is really important: You are the master and the mind is your servant. It's your responsibility to direct and guide your mind so it can help you to manifest a reality that's beneficial for yourself and for others.

Again, the mind doesn't distinguish between good or bad, it just follows your orders. If you tell your mind: "Give me abundance and fulfillment", the mind will find ways to give it to you. If you ask for lack and unhappiness, the mind will also find ways to give it to you and it won't tell you: "Hey, that's not really a good choice, try something else".

Whatever you are asking for, whatever you are focusing on, the mind will find ways to materialize it in your life: You will attract the sort of information, people, motivation… and you will take the kind of action that will make your vision (the total sum of all your thoughts and feelings) your reality.

The solution is to focus on what you want and to let go of all your negative and destructive thoughts. And you do this by becoming more and more aware of your thought patterns and by simply dismissing all those thoughts that are not "beneficial" for you.

Be careful, negative thoughts might arise from all kinds of stupid little things. However, these seemingly unimportant and harmless thoughts might define your destiny.

How can this be possible? Here are some of the examples that might happen to us every day:

• Let's say, today is your day off and it's raining all day long. You are annoyed and frustrated. You say, "that can only happen to me", you imagine all day long, how wonderful this day would have been with a bit of sunshine and than you get annoyed again… Why not just taking advantage of the situation: Read the book you bought last month, spend some time with your friend at your favorite coffee place, go shopping… Choose to be happy rather than being annoyed and unhappy all day long - there are just too many reasons for you to be happy rather than being unhappy.

• Or, someone treated you with disrespect at your workplace and now you think all day long how to best retaliate. You might start wondering: "Maybe people treat me like this because I'm just stupid, maybe I don't deserve any respect…" And your mind keeps on running: I don't deserve respect, I'm Mr. unimportant, I'm a loser… Stop! Just stop your mind right here and right now. Remind yourself about all your great qualities, about all the nice things you did for others, about all the fantastic things you already achieved and are capable of achieving.

We could find thousands of examples like these ones, where the mind just runs out of control, when it's not guided by its master (which is you). The point here is, if you don't catch negative and destructive thoughts right at the beginning, they can completely mess up your life and create many undesirable results.

Everything starts with a tiny negative thought - often even about a rather unimportant event. Then you add some more negative thoughts. You make the story look bigger and more important than it is. Your mind keeps spinning, you add more negative thoughts… This maybe goes on for years and you become an expert in negative thinking and messing up your life. Whatever happens in your life, you immediately see the negative, dark and gloomy side…

And of course, your mind helps you to manifest whatever you demand and focus on. But in reality it's you (with the help of your mind) who created the life you are living today. But the great thing is, you can change the course of your destiny at any moment. Simply start dismissing your negative thoughts and start focusing on the kind of thoughts and feelings that correspond with the life you want to live.

Don't just tell yourself: "Everything is great, everything is wonderful…". We all know, that doesn't really work. Rather, learn to see the positive and life-changing potential of all your experiences - give it a try, it's not that difficult. I know someone who had cancer and who told me that this was the best thing that ever happened to him. He told me, this completely changed his life and only after going through this painful experience he knows what it means to be happy and to feel truly alive.

Try hard enough and you will find something positive and growth-provoking in any situation.

It's really easy, simply become aware of your thought patterns - just a little bit more with every day - and whenever you catch yourself holding on to any negative thoughts, simply dismiss them, let go of them and put your mind on something else. Make it a challenge, a game to find something positive, in anything that happens to you and use it as a catalyst for your own personal growth and for the realization of more love, happiness and abundance in your life.