If I figured out how to get my ex girlfriend back, then anyone can. The first thing you need to do understand clearly why the relationship ended. This will heavily influence your choice of strategy to get your girlfriend back.

Did she leave you? If so, why? This is where you need to eat some humble pie and really look at yourself to see where you need to change.

Read this very carefully: many guys make horrible mistakes with their girlfriend and don't even realize they are making mistakes. We are clueless!!! At least we are clueless sometimes. When I was in high school, my girlfriend broke up with me. It wasn't until five years later until I truly understood why she broke up with me. It was because of some immature behavior on my part. I couldn't see it at the time. It was only several years later when I had matured that I finally got what it was I was doing wrong.

Do you think this could be you? If so, you really need to look inward and figure out what it is about you that made her break up with you.

Here is one strategy for doing this. Seek out a friend, or even better, a good friend of your ex girlfriend. Then, tell them that you want to talk about why your girlfriend broke up with you.

Before the conversation, you need to prepare yourself. Open your mind. Tell yourself that you are ready to hear some possibly harsh feedback about yourself. Then, listen closely to what the other person says and try hard to understand it.

For example, that girl that broke up with me in high school did so because I was too needy. I called her all time, smothered her and always wanted to know what she was doing. But no matter how hard other people tried to explain it to me, I COULD NOT get it. I was closed to understanding my behavior.

If I can't understand what my problem is, then how can I change it? How can I expect to get my girlfriend back? This goes for you too.