If you have ever been through a breakup, you know that life is rather difficult to deal with. Mistakes are easy to make but the kinds of mistakes you make can destroy your chances of winning back your ex. If you really want to win back your ex, there are 4 tips to adhere by.

(1) Provide Your Ex Space

How would you feel if you had to see your ex every day? Would you miss them if you had to see them all the time? Chances are probably not. If a breakup was not applicable, tempers can flare up, bringing more bad thoughts and feelings to the mix. Your ultimate goal to win back your ex, not give more distance to those feelings. Give your ex at least a month of space. That means no contact of any kinds whether by mail, e-mail, phone, fax, text messages and face to face.

(2) Avoid Easy Ways to Deal with the Breakup

When a person is depressed, it is easy to turn to drugs and alcohol for a quick pick me up. It’s the worst thing to do in fact when you are dealing with a breakup. You’ll find yourself doing really stupid things on top of the already dumb one you are doing. You may find that you make late night desperate calls that can and usually will send your ex running for the nearest court for an order of protection. Find a healthy project or channel instead of one that involves drinking and getting high.

(3) Don’t Bombard Your Ex with Attention

Some people believe that the only way to win back their ex is to get their attention, somehow, someway. The last thing you should be doing is text messaging, calling or e-mailing them every chance you get. Coming of like behaving you are the psycho ex will only defeat your chances of getting them back. By giving them the space they need, they may soon learn that they can’t be without you.

(4) Develop a Plan, Avoid off Hand Thoughts

Be sure you have proven, well thought out plan to win back your ex. It can be disastrous if you go a second round with your ex without a full fledged proven plan. This is one of the worst mistakes people tend to make when they want to win back their ex.