Has she been fluttering her flirty eyes at you, brushing against your arm and giggling at your jokes? Does she ignore you, pretend you don’t exist, pull away from you? Is this all in the same night? She’s being confusing and it’s driving you crazy. You just want to know how she feels about you and how you can get her back.

First, realize that she may not know how she feels about you. However, you can learn by looking for these simple signs:

Looking At Phone Calls

After you’ve decided to be friends, does she call you just to see how you’re doing? The next day she calls you to see if you’ve seen a recent movie that just came out. The next day she calls to tell you her and a bunch of friends are getting together to go see that new movie she mentioned yesterday and wants to know if you’re interested in joining. She doesn’t outright say she wants you to be there, but hints that it’s mostly a couples’ thing by saying that Jeremy would be there with Felicia and Marco and Samantha would be there. Get the picture? She’s called you a few times since the "only friends" speech and has even hinted that you might inevitably be paired together on this outing. This is a general indication she’s still interested in you and you’re high on the "strong emotions" side of the emotional scale.

Looking At Texts

She’s called once or twice since the "let’s be friends" speech but mostly just sends texts. Conversation seems kind of awkward and almost forced, but she’s still showing an interest in wanting to be your friend. However, that may be as far as it can go again. She obviously likes your company and even trusts you like a friend. This shows you’re not on the "indifferent" side of the emotional scale but it can also mean you’re not on the "strong emotions" side that shows she really cares and still might love you.

Looking At Emails

You get an email once in awhile telling you about how her trip to Europe went but there’s really no substance to the message. She doesn’t call or even seem that interested in you anymore. She’s become "indifferent" towards you, which is okay. Move on with your life.

Emotional Scale

So what is this emotional scale? It’s a range of feelings a person has towards another person and you can see where you stand according to how she treats you and how often she contacts you.