Ending A Relationship or an Affair…The Hardest Words

"I want to end this affair. I no longer love you" Those are probably the hardest words you’ll ever say to anybody that you have loved. Yes, ending an affair isn’t easy for anyone. It’s no wonder people are searching for advice on this problem, and a solution to it everyday. Well, if you’re reading this, you’re probably one of those people who can’t seem to find the right words to say to your partner to end the affair, well; for whatever; reason. This article is going to give you some good advice that I hope will help you.

It’s not easy having to let somebody go for both parties involved, that you have been in love with for years. Ending a relationship, good or bad, is hard for either the man or the woman. Even someone that’s been in a bad marriage has a hard time letting go. It’s even harder when there is one person that isn’t satisfied with the relationship while the other is as happy as a lark. This is when things get very messy in the affair. How do you say good-bye to someone that has been around and that you have loved for so long? Honestly, there is no easy way of doing this. And if you’re looking for some sort of magic words that are going to have your partner say, "Oh dear I understand what you’re saying…and its no problem" then you are living in a dream world and you need to come back down to earth.

So here is some advice for you to take into consideration when trying to end an affair. For starters, if you’re thinking of ending the relationship I would advise you not to put it off or delay it. The longer you make things drag on, the worse it’s going to get in the long run. It’s not going to get any easier or less painful if you wait 3 days, a week, or even a month to end it. If anything, you would be hurting your partner by keeping them hanging on any longer than necessary the pain will only get worse. "So make it quick" You’ll actually be doing both of you a favor.

Another thing is to be direct and to the point. Don’t beat around the bush and prolong things. A simple "This relationship isn’t working anymore between us" is the best approach. And then, explain the reasoning behind what you just said to your partner. Let them know why the affair isn’t working out any longer between you two. If you can give some clear, concise facts, it won’t make it any less painful, but it will be a lot easier for your partner to accept and a lot better for the both of you than screaming’ and yelling at each other. "I just want to end this affair now" will not go over very well. But, a well thought out explanation or plan will go a long way. People actually appreciate directness over screaming and yelling. They don’t like to be strung along for a long period of time. The main focus is to keep calm when explaining the reason to end the affair with your partner.