People don’t feel they’re treated right, but will go through the process anyway; I just don’t get it. I’m talking about people who work with some brides when it comes to helping them prepare for their special day. I’m especially talking about what we term "bridezillas", especially as seen on the TV show of the same name. This show highlights the worst of the worst when it comes to brides who can’t be pleased with what’s happening around them, and they take it out on everyone, including family members.

I often wonder how a show like this exists to begin with. I mean, how do they know which women are going to exhibit such bad behavior while preparing for their wedding day? Is there actually an interview process with women asking them if they behave like children in their real life, and do they already know they’re going to be tough to work with in planning their wedding? Or is a part of it that producers recruit women who are working on planning their wedding day and encourage them to behave badly for ratings?

Regardless of which way it happens, the behavior on this show is deplorable. Unfortunately, it’s not just a television phenomenon. Brides do this sort of thing all the time, with people at all stages of the wedding process. They’ll yell at dress makers, designers, and people doing alterations because this or that doesn’t work right, when it may be their fault for fluctuating weight issues. They’ll yell at the people doing their hair and nails because it just doesn’t look perfect enough for them. They’ll yell at the people bringing the flowers because there’s not enough of a particular color. They’ll even yell at people making their wedding cakes because it "looks different than it did in the picture".

Everyone knows its stress, but stress isn’t enough to justify boorish behavior. There’s nothing worse than an ugly bride, with "ugly" in this case describing how a bride is acting. This is supposed to be the happiest day of a bride’s life, and yet often leading up to it is one of the most miserable periods a bride, and her friends and family, have ever experienced.

How can brides get beyond this? They might need a wedding planner to take care of such things. Paying a little bit extra for someone else to shoulder all the responsibilities can take a lot of pressure off a bride, who then only has to talk to one person.

Another thing they can do is let others help them with some of the procedural things. Parents, especially mothers, love being a part of the process, and of course there’s the maid of honor and the bridesmaids, who are often willing to help out.

Finally, brides need to realize that there is no such thing as a "perfect" wedding day if all that’s being worried about is the process of the day. A perfect wedding day is a day when the bride and the groom exchange their vows in front of their friends and family, ready to live happily forever with their partner. Everything else is just, if we can say this, frosting on the cake. Whether it all goes well or not, it will give you memories to share forever. And there’s nothing like a good story to enhance the history of one’s wedding day.