What is the simplest and surest way to spice up your sex life? Talking dirty, of course!

Talking dirty does not mean degrading or demeaning your man.

It is the fine art of figuring out what turns him on and being explicitly vocal about what is going on in your mind when you are in the mood for love. Most men would ardently agree, "The dirtier, the better"!

The trick, of course, is talking dirty without actually feeling dirty. Though men seem to have the natural talent for making dirty talk seem a smooth and sexy part of their routine, many women may have trouble breaking through the barriers.

How do you start Talking Dirty?

If you have trouble talking dirty, relax! Don’t worry about it. You have been conditioned, both as a child and as an adult, on what society considers right and wrong about sex.

Talking dirty was never considered very ladylike. But forget everything they ever told you as a little girl. If talking dirty is what heats up things between you and your boyfriend, well then, it’s a normal and natural part of your relationship.

A few guidelines before you start

Before you start, set a few boundaries, at least in the beginning. If certain words turn you off or even offend you, let him know right at the start. Men tend to get carried away and your boyfriend has no way of knowing it will upset you, unless you tell him so. Once you have set a few, basic guidelines, you are ready to fly!

Walking the talk!

Once you are ready to start, remember not to force anything on yourself. If you are not comfortable with what you are saying, you will sound stilted and awkward.

If you have been together for a while, you will already know him well enough to figure out what will turn him on or off. Stick to terms of endearment and sexy compliments, if that is what flows naturally for you, to begin with.

Once you have gained your level of comfort, move on to more explicit words or phrases each time you have sex. You will soon find practice makes perfect.

Remember, you will be amply rewarded by the response you get from your partner. And you will find that talking dirty will not only excite him, it will also excite you in return.

Talking dirty is something that is sure to expand your experience of pleasure, as well as reinforce the bonds of love and trust between you and your partner.

You will be surprised to find out how simply talking dirty can pleasure your man. Now that you know about the easiest way to sex up your love life, do not forget: mutual respect and having fun are the key words of any relationship.