Just how hardcore do you have to get to make dirty talking exciting? You might have watched an adult movie and blushed and thought "Oh God! I can’t say THAT!"

The thing is you don’t have to unless you want to. Dirty talking is not only about crude words. You can dirty talk without using a single offensive word and still blow his mind away.

Why Is Dirty Talk So Effective?

Dirty talking is effective because it adds extra elements to sex. It involves most of your senses. Learning to talk as well as listen during sex can be intensely exciting because it makes you more aware of the experience and places you firmly in the moment.

We tend to exclude all our senses except for touching and feeling, when we have sex. Even so, those senses we ignore are still functioning; we just don’t acknowledge them. Dirty talk awakens all your senses and enhances your experiences.

Figure Out The Odds In Your Favor:

• First, make sure you are clear about your partner’s turn off’s. Either ask him right out or else, carefully judge his sense of adventure and experimentation.

• Pay attention to how he reacts to such things as nudity, different types of sex and dirty talking on TV or in the movies. If he reacts negatively to it, you have to make your choices carefully.

• Some men may find dirty talk sluttish and get turned off by a blatant display of sexuality. On the other hand, if he does like it, it will turn you into his sex goddess!

• If you are the squeaky clean type, or your partner is very conservative when it comes to sex, downright dirty might be a real turn off. Even so, if you like the idea of dirty talking, it is worth figuring out if using clean words sensually will work for you both.

Tips for a Soft Start Before You Get To Hard Talking!

1. If you are normally quiet during sex, start by using moans and groans to show your excitement. This is easy to do; but if he revels in your body language, you can take your clues from there.

2. Break yourself in gently by whispering things like "I want you"; "Oh, it feels so good when you do that!"; "Touch me here", etc.

3. Learn to use a sexy voice to make what you are saying sound raunchy, even when you are speaking in plain, simple English.

4. Practice when you are alone, in front of a mirror, to get your dirty talk and your facial expression in synch with each other.

5. It is important that you look and sound sexy at the same time.

6. Body language should be used to underline what you are hinting at verbally.

7. Look deeply into his eyes when you dirty talk. This will make you feel more connected and let you judge his subtle reactions to your words.

Once you start off with a limited vocabulary, you can expand it to include naughtier words as you become more used to dirty talking. As you gain confidence, it will come more naturally to you and then you can reconsider if hardcore dirty talking is right for you or not.