Dirty talking is way of sensuous talking. You dirty talk to tease your partner; to inflame and encourage them erotically. It is way of enhancing your sexual experience. You not only seek to free yourself from your inhibitions, but also to drive them wild with your verbal erotica.

What you say therefore, is of prime importance when you dirty talk. Talking about anything that might bore your partner, turn them off, or even worse, downright offend them, is something you want to avoid at all costs.

When you pamper and pet someone and make them feel special, they become more receptive and giving. They are more open. It will be best if you inform yourself about topics you should never pick and things you should never do while dirty talking, because it could kill the entire mood.

What to avoid while dirty talking:

1. Work - If it is about an erotic fantasy set in the environs of your office, go ahead. Otherwise, leave work outside your bedroom door. There is nothing sexy in hearing about your daily grind and talking about it will bore or irk your partner.

2. Complaints – Sex is a joyful experience. Complaining about other people or your life in general can be very energy sapping and could show you up in poor light. Dirty talking is a positive experience while complaining is a negative one. They will simply cancel themselves out.

3. Watching the clock – Being in a hurry and looking at your watch repeatedly will make you seem distracted and not quite there. When you do not give your partner your full attention, you do not do them justice. Dirty talk has to be leisurely and relaxed. Slow your self down and get the watch out of sight!

4. Inadvertent humiliation – Be careful not to hurt your partners’ feelings. Using crude words that will deflate and injure their ego will secretly earn you a lot of resentment and anger. These are definitely not two emotions that will lead to great sex. Complementing your partner and making them feel good about themselves should be your aim.

What you can do:

In general, keep away from topics that may offend your partner, especially if you do not know them well and you have not had the opportunity to ask, or find our for yourself, about their preferences.

If it goes disastrously wrong the first time you try it, you might not feel good enough to try another time. Respecting their space and learning not to trample on feelings is the sensitive thing to do.

Once you have got the idea about what you should never say or do when you dirty talk, figuring out what you CAN talk about will be an easier process. If you are less afraid of making mistakes, talking dirty will turn out to be a relaxing and pleasurable experience.