Like so many others, you might think that possessing an effective strategy is the most important determining factor for dating success. If so, you would be mistaken! The best strategy in the world, if poorly executed as a result of lacking self-esteem, will still result in dissatisfaction and rejection.

Recent discoveries have shown that 85% of us have some degree of diminished self-esteem. Lacking self-esteem results in low self-confidence, possessing little charisma and diminished personal flair. As a result, your attractiveness to others is far removed from where you want it to be. You therefore won’t attract the people that you are really attracted to. This need not be the case as you are certainly deserving of more than that!

On the contrary, people who DO have strong self-esteem show more passion in their relationships, display greater physical energy, give off a more vibrant charisma and live with greater ecstasy in all areas of their lives. High self-esteem individuals attract others to them magnetically. This same attraction goes well beyond the realm of dating and is important in the arenas of public speaking, parenting, negotiating and communicating effectively in general. People possessing strong self-esteem feel better, act more effectively and typically get far more done then those lacking full confidence and a strong, positive self-image.

For all too many, throughout the course of their lifetimes, their level of self-worth has continually become diminished. During the formative childhood years, when we are most impressionable, we may have been criticized, neglected, rejected or reprimanded for our behaviors. Most can recall a negative experience that was initially responsible for damaging their sense of self-worth or at the source of deciding they were somehow unlovable or defective in comparison to others.

All too often, our self-esteem becomes diminished a little more with each upsetting event or confrontational situation we experience. Before long, we become resigned to our dimmed existence and fail to properly notice the harm it does to our psyches and the extent to which it impairs our success in the dating game.

So instead of searching for answers in the next dating book or course that may focus on teaching you the best’ strategy on how to date, I invite you to take a new approach. Dating “success” that is achieved as a result of fooling others or learning some slick approach surely will not result in a long term lasting and satisfying relationship. Rather, I invite you to explore the process of elevating your self-esteem as this will reward you with the life-long benefits of not only being able to achieve far greater success in dating but in every other area of your life as well!