Unavoidable Confusion

There is never a simple or easy way to explain why your partner has strayed from your relationship.If you have a boyfriend or a husband that cheated on you, many people would probably think that it is merely because men are just not monogamous, and their affairs are based entirely on satisfying sexual needs. None the less, in most instances, even such affairs will go on to go on for quite a long period. When this occurs there are sure to be emotional needs that the individual who your partner is having an affair with is fulfilling.

Affairs are seldom, if ever, entirely physical and, even if the affair relates to what people refer to as just purely sexual needs, make no mistake about it, this can never be true. Our sexuality is so intertwined with who, and what we are, that it is not possible to isolate this aspect of ourselves as an independent characteristic which does not have deep and direct ties to our complete person.

Something Missing

Aside from fulfilling whatever is thought to be missing in a relationship, one more reason why infidelity can occur is revenge. Sometimes as a method of evening the score for something you did, a partner will sometimes cheat. In other terms, cheating is usually a sign of other issues in your relationship, or with one of the people in the relationship where the concept of the others actions has caused a breakdown in the relationship. Not that having affairs is a remedy, more so than just a symptom of the underlying causes of affairs. Open honest interaction is exceedingly crucial in a relationship and when you loose that, your relationship is headed in the wrong direction and exposed to significant danger.

We are extremely complicated creatures and our capability to deceive other people is only surpassed by our capability to fool our own selves. Not only do we have a tendency to lie to and manipulate others, but we compound our own problems (and the problems of others) by doing so. Even though this is not commonsense, it is brought about by being deceitful with our own selves and could be caused by a huge variety of factors. The catch is, if a person cannot be truthful with themselves, who can they be trustworthy with? In this circumstance, honesty is missing and affairs are bound to eventually happen under these circumstances.

Freudian Influence

When your lying spouse is dealing with their own inner deception, these deceptions can only intrude on your relationship. Under this circumstance, when an affair is purely the consequence of an individuals personal problems, instead of a breakdown in your relationship, the point of an affair can be entirely self-destructive. If a person feels either consciously or subconsciously that they are not pleasant enough to deserve such a splendid person in their life as you, and feels unworthy of all the good things the relationship provides, or that life offers in general, the underlying response to that feeling can be cheating and the destruction of healthy relationships. This is where destructive thinking becomes a self fulfilling prophesy, and the lack of inner balance causes a complete lack of outer balance as well.

Onward and Upward

Subsequent to learning about the probable causes for your partners Cheating, it is typically up to you to determine whether it is worth it to give your relationship another try or not. No matter how things wind up, what is crucial is for you not to put the blame on yourself, and then also have the courage to tackle the next phase of your life, despite the errors you or anyone else has made. These mistakes can lead us to a higher place of understanding and in the quality of life if we set our minds to it. Patterns of the past do not need to repeat themselves as soon as we wish to change and grow. It was what it was, it is what it is, and it is now time to move on.

The answer is to be truthful with yourself and vow to stay honest and true in all your thoughts and all your actions. With this as your underlying value you will come through the result of an affair effectively unscathed, even though while you are in the middle of it, it seems like torture. After a little while, you can rise above the heart ache and live once again with peace and love in your heart.