Undoubtedly you are now fully certain and committed about rescuing or reviving your half drowned relationship, which is why you are reading this lines in the first place. But if you are eager to get your ex back as soon as possible your actions may have impact in the opposite direction, causing the abyss between the two of you to grow bigger. It is a natural human psychological reaction to respond to stress by resisting and turning away. Fighting against this kind of behavior is completely useless and it will only make matters worse.

Are you trying to get your ex feel sorry for you and make him feel remorse? Are you trying constantly to call, write, letters, emails, text messages and so on to remind him things. Don't. This kind of emotional

blackmailing simply doesn't pay off. You will only end up looking desperate, needy and pathetic. Remember that you need to have some sort of psychological advantage and intangible aura at all times. Besides that human soul needs time to heal and to settle certain things down, in order to find out what could possibly went wrong and why? Most of the times there are more than one reason, the breakup was only the latest drop in the glass, the final globule in the sand-clock.

You are going to need a completely different approach. You can begin with tearing off all contacts for a while after the two of you moved separately. During this period you have to focus on improving your personal life, and try to forget about the possible issues in your past relationship. Put your energies into something else, be creative, go out a lot, make new friends, try new things, and have fun while doing it. This period is going to be quite a provocation for you, because you will need to reinvent yourself and strip down your old and possibly irritating habits. You will need discipline, perseverance and willingness in order to achieve that. This period can vary from a couple of weeks to a couple of months, deep down you will know when you are ready. Remember, your own worst enemy is yourself.

If you are playing your cards right, and look like someone balanced, cool, open minded and resourceful there are big chances that your ex will try to start to contact you sooner, and then you will be on the right track. If you will have this aura of mystery surrounding you sooner or later he or she will start missing you and feel attracted to you. But that requires that the two of you to be completely separated both physically and spiritually. Following this simply but important rule it will be your first step in success.

When you act like a stalker you will not be missed, because you don't give time and opportunity to be missed.

Just keep yourself grounded and wait for the right opportunity. If you and your ex are really meant for each other, you will see when the signs appear, and know when the time is right to make the first step. Just do not analyze your before and after things to much because it will prevent you from making the right decision, and most importantly the right action. Take things slow, and consider it a little like a game and not a death or life situation. If you want to know more and are ready to go deeper I suggest you to read this further. I wish you all the best.