When considering possibly ending a relationship with your partner, it goes without saying that you are faced with an extremely difficult decision. After spending time, and sharing feelings with another person, it's simply not easy to say goodbye. This is true whether you've been together for only a few months, or many years.

Some people give up on their relationships before they've really tried to fix them. Unfortunately, because it can be hard, many couples call it quits instead of working to fix problems and save their relationship. Still other couples suffer through problem after problem refusing to call it quits. These "gluttons for punishment" continue to take back their partners over and over again, despite real relationship troubles such as; cheating, addictions and abuse.

How do you know when to give up on a relationship?

The obvious reasons to split up: If you don't feel safe, if a partner is abusive, you must get out now. No if, and, or buts! Out-of-control addictions will lead to pain, suffering, and hurt that is often beyond repair.

The "not so" obvious reasons to break up: If a partner makes a "one-time" mistake, some people are able to get past the pain and negativity that mistake has caused. For example, if a partner has cheated - though the healing process is very hard - some couples are able to work things out.

More signs of when to end a relationship:

• Unwillingness, or inability to make necessary changes.

• Having tried (really tried!) to work things out but are unable to repair the relationship.

• Refusal to acknowledge problems in the relationship.

• A falling out of love.

Are there times when ending a relationship may be for the best? Yes, of course. However, if abusive behavior is not a factor, and both you and your partner are still in love, then working to save your relationship is highly recommended.