Both partners in a broken relationship will find it rough irrespective of who initiated the breakup. It is possible to mend such a break up and get back with your ex, again, whether you are the one who wanted the break-up or not. However, you should understand right from the beginning that it is not going to be as easy as it sounds. But neither is it complicated.

If your relationship has broken up, what should you do if you want to get back with your ex?

1. Provide some breathing space

One of the best ways through which you can make the break-up permanent is to flood your ex with messages in any form, whether emails, instant messages, texts, or phone calls. You should instead give your ex a break. Stop getting in touch with your ex for some time. You will achieve a number of things by doing this.

First of all, you will still retain your dignity that would be shred to pieces if you go begging. Secondly, you will give your ex time to reflect on your broken relationship. Third, you won't drive your ex crazy by constantly bringing back the painful memories. Fourth, your ex will start to miss you.

2. Apologize

An apology has great powers in melting hearts. There are a few things you must bear in mind when you want to give your apology.

Do not rush. Let some time pass before you apologize. When you do, write a hand written letter. This will give a very personal touch that is lost when you use modern methods of communication.

Keep everything in perspective without letting things go out of hand. There are a number of common mistakes that people make when giving their apologies that you should avoid.

Do not try to justify your mistake at all. This quickly ruins its effectiveness. You must avoid this little word 'but'. It has the power of destroying everything that you have said before it.

3. Care for yourself

Many people tend to neglect themselves when they have broken up. Do not starve yourself, or eat junk food. Take some exercises as well. You will be healthy - and feel it too.

You should also not take your physical appearance for granted, as it has a very significant impact.

You should generally improve yourself in different aspects, even in honing some of your skills. This means that you can even take lessons to learn something new of interest to you.

4. Make your need for reconciliation known

You do not hope to get back with your ex if you keep your interest to yourself. Once you have carried out the steps mentioned above, it will be time to get your ex know that you would like to mend your broken relationship.