Arguments will get you no where in trying to save or even improve your marriage. Arguments tend to magnify and even duplicate the problems within a marriage. The best way to save your marriage is to stop arguing.

Arguments set the stage for a separation as the parties involved view themselves as unable to continue to live together.

Replace argument with conversation

When a problem is encountered in a relationship every effort by both partners should be to have a conversation rather than an argument. Having a conversation will allow you to clearly discuss the problem and look for solutions rather than placing blame which is what occurs in an argument.

It is also good to stop, no matter how right you may feel you are, and look at the situation from your partner’s point of view. You will have to work hard to change your perspective of the whole situation to successfully accomplish this but the rewards of doing so will be worth all of the effort.

Seeking a solution approach

Remember approaching a problem to seek a solution is much different than approaching a problem with a solution. In the latter case your mind is made up and it is very easy for stubbornness to open the door to argument, which is exactly what we were suppose to avoid.

What to do with blame

.It is also important to not place blame, which also means you have to take part off the blame at least. A disagreement occurs when both parties fail to agree not just one.

Problems in a marriage does not mean it is time to throw in the towel. Problems should be viewed as an opportunity to give your marriage the attention is deserves. Stop and think about if for just a moment. Really most problems present simply because enough attention has not been given to the partnership of marriage and the partnership has developed a crack that just needs to be repaired.

If you and your partner have recently had an argument or a series of arguments, stop, take inventory of the situation, and have a conversation without placing blame with your spouse with the end result being to look for solutions to the problem at hand.