So many times people think if they are having marriage problems that they need to have a change or to change. Actually the best way of saving your marriage is without change.

Yes, this probably does sound a little strange. Oh, okay it really is strange. But let’s take a look. You married the person you married for who they were, right! Are they really different today? I would dare say they probably are not. So what is wrong?

It probably is not your partner but simply the everyday things of life that have become overwhelming to both of you and neither of you are the best you can be right now.

Do you understand what that mean? The secret is right there and it has nothing to do about changing the people or even the situation. It is about both partners being the best they can be.

If all we are talking about is being the best we can be, then everyone can do this and you can save your marriage. Rather than focusing one what is wrong about the other partner focus on what you can do to be the best partner you can be.

This isn’t rocket science it is a very simple approach working on what each partner has the most control of and that is their self. The really great thing is you get to keep being who you are just even better. You are probably thinking this is just too easy. Will it really work? Give it a try and see for yourself. The worst thing that could happen is you will be a better person. How is that for failure?

Think of when you have gone for a job interview. All you could take was your self but you took the best you could be. That is all you have to do.