It is amazing when a little bit of trouble enters into wedded bliss, how quickly the couple can turn on each other. The resentment and frustration, which is simmering underneath the surface, seeps out in accusations, blame, and hostile conversations! A simple attitude adjustment in this type of situation could result in saving your marriage.

Both partners believe the other is intently trying to be hurtful. This negative atmosphere feeds discord and magnifies the little problem that started the ugly situation. The negative attitudes work as poison within the relationship.

When the bitterness and resentment continues or continues to arise at the sign of any difficulty, trust is replaced with suspicion and kindness replaced with anger.

It is then easy for each partner to spout their laundry list of hurts and blame out to each other in a shouting match. Forgiveness and Kindness can’t even be found in the room let alone the relationship.

Their interactions with each other when they first met were probably not heated and damaging like the conversations have become. Back then they excused each other and looked for the best in each other. What happened to the mutual respect for their individuality?

Relationships like this can be saved. An attitude adjustment which is self inflicted by speaking to each other in a respectful and loving manner will quickly replace the pessimistic atmosphere with a positive atmosphere where problems and trouble can be resolved rather than magnified.

How to self inflict an attitude adjustment in a relationship

• Write down your partner’s best traits

• Share one positive thing about your partner daily

• Look for opportunities to compliment your partner and do it

• Show trust by giving the benefit of a doubt to your partner

• Remember you are partners not enemies. Building each other up will strengthen the partnership.

• Instead of attacking each other when trouble comes attack the trouble together as a team.

An attitude adjustment can create a strong partnership and winning team while saving your marriage.