One of the most frightening and frustrating things is recognizing your marriage is in trouble and dying and not knowing what to do. This isn’t supposed to be happening, right? What can you do? Is saving your marriage even possible?

These are the questions you are probably asking yourself. Perhaps you have already been down the path of counseling and it failed to work or you had to go alone as your partner would not go.

A Reasons a partner doesn’t go to counseling

• Doesn’t have the time

• Doesn’t believe there is a marital problem

• Doesn’t want to change

• No ownership of the problem

• If left alone the problem will leave

Every marriage is not saved but there really are more divorces happening than is necessary. Divorce has become the easy way out for many today. Things get a little bit tough and they think it is over and just throw in the towel with no effort to save the marriage.

If you are determined your marriage is worth saving and that saving your marriage is important, good news is on its way. A marriage can be saved if only one partner wants to save it. I am not crazy it really can.

There are countless couples together today in a healthy marriage all because one partner cared enough to try to save the marriage. Even if the other partner has started the path to divorce there is hope.

The first step when it looks like all is lost and your marriage is on the brink of dying is to take control of your own negative thoughts and feelings. In their place allow calmness and learn to be resourceful. You might say it is time to pull yourself up with your boot straps. Determine to do what you can. Get the help you need with or without your partner. Find the will to do everything possible to save your marriage. Believe in your marriage, even when it looks like the life is all but gone from it.

As you do this, you will learn a lot about yourself and will probably discover some things you can do and ways you can change that just might work to save your marriage.