Having marriage problems? Perhaps it is because you have lost something. Finding the love that is lost from your marriage can be the first step in saving your marriage.

Courtship + Love = Marriage

That formula worked before marriage and it doesn’t change after marriage. It still takes courtship and love for marriage to work.

Too many times people get married and the courtship stops. Overtime this will begin to affect the love in the relationship and then the marriage is in trouble.

It sounds rather simple and to some point it is but there is a little more to it. Courtship should not and must not stop when the wedding vows have been said at the altar.

For many marriages that have failed the couple never heard or got a grasp on the real meaning of courtship after marriage.

At the beginning of your marriage both of you felt you were married to the most loving, most caring, most adoring person in the world. You can reclaim that feeling again if you really want your marriage to work.

How to reclaim love in your marriage

• Put past differences and problems behind you

• Remember the good things about your marriage

• Lay aside your fears of today

If you continually or even dwell at all upon past problems and shortcomings in your marriage you will not be able to move forward. You will stay lost among the "stuff". You will not be able to replace the hurt with love. You have to leave the past difficulties and walk beyond them in order to recover what has been lost.

It is equally important to think of the wonderful memories of your marriage. These things to remember could be big things such as a romantic trip you took or little things like when you spouse did said something very dear to you.

Laying aside the fear you may have today is also very important and may be one of the hardest things to do. You will find these fears are easier to lay aside when you let go of the past hurts. Fear will immobilize you and prevent you from moving forward to the beautiful marriage relationship that is waiting for you. Another way to lay aside fear is to replace it with love. Finding the love that has been lost in your marriage really can be the first step in saving your marriage.