Most marriages start at a marriage altar with vows to each other to love and to hold in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer and etc. Yes there were good intentions to simply love and grow old together. Too many marriages in just a short amount of time end with tears of bitterness with the couple going separate ways. Frequently soon after the split up one of the partners comes to the realization separation is not what they actually wanted. But now can they become a couple again. Is it even possible to save the marriage when the couple is not even together?

There is no promise of winning back your partner after the split up but there are some suggestions that might help. It is worth a try.

If the partner has moved out of the home do not try to contact them when you are upset.

Spend some time reflecting within yourself of what the problems and troubles in the marriage really are. Put aside blame as it will only hold you back from seeing the big picture of the relationship objectively. Remember a marriage or partnership is not a relationship with one person. It takes two for a marriage or partnership. It also takes two to make a relationship work or to break a relationship. Look intently at your role in the marriage and recognize the part you played in the marriage especially in regard to the problem and how you handled it. When you have sincerely looked at the situation from this angle you will be able to see the behaviors and attitudes you need to change.

After a couple of weeks without any contact, make a call and ask the partner to meet with you. It is hoped that they too have missed you as well and will say yes.

It is imperative that once the meeting is scheduled that you do not revert back to a negative, blaming and accusatory attitude. Be careful of your conversation and body language. Most problems really do begin with communication difficulties. Being able to maintain positive communication and communication behaviors at this first meeting is a must.

Remaining calm during the meeting will allow you to communicate in an effective manner what you have to say. First acknowledge your mistakes and your part of the problem sharing that you are willing to make the corrections necessary to give the relationship a chance. Let them know how much they have been missed and that you would really like to be together again. Your partner has had the same time you have had to reflect upon the relationship and consider their own part in the problems and troubles. Hopefully they will be willing to acknowledge their part of the problems. If there is still love between both partners there is hope the marriage can be saved after a split up.