5 How To Be Sexier Secrets Every Sexy Mom Needs to Know

How To Be Sexier Secret #1: Go Easy on Yourself From the Inside Out

I used to wake up in the morning feeling either this dread for the day or this anxiety to make a difference. I didn't feel that by simply waking up and opening my eyes I was enough- I had to DO something to be enough: Be a better mom. Exercise to loose some weight. Meditate so I wasn't so crabby. Think positive to attract a better life. Make a difference. Be sexier. Be more peaceful. Argh!

I was afraid if I didn't keep pushing myself to be better, improve or excel, that my life would fall apart. It was perfectionism at its worse. I learned that I'm already OK. I'm already a good person. I'm already enough. Now I can breathe, appreciate, be grateful and be in the moment, savoring my son, cherishing my life, shining just because I'm ME.

How To Be Sexier Secret #2: How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body Our heads are file cabinets full of wonderful information that we used in the past. Yet when your child needs something, that's happening NOW not the past. If you allow your mind to spin in circles strategizing to find the answer, your life is passing you by and your child is still crying while your panic sets in with a deeper hold.

This moment is felt in your body, not your head. In this moment you are connected to infinite wisdom accessed as a gut feeling, intuition, divine guidance. Breathe, trust the answer is within you, listen and act from feeling. Let your body lead the way and feel the wisdom of the ages course through your veins and the love of the universe in your hands as you pick up your child. This is a sensual woman.

How To Be Sexier Secret #3: Getting Grounded and Opening Your Heart

Getting in your body starts with connecting to the earth. When we're sleep deprived and trying to control our circumstances, it's hard to get to that place of calm and peace where we make our best decisions. We're more prone to fear, overwhelm and a closed protected heart. The quickest way for me to find my power and peace is to imagine my feet are connected to the earth and I breathe in through my feet, nourishing my body.

This calms me, relaxes me, reminds me that I can handle anything. Walk as if your feet are making love to the earth. Notice how this expands your heart with faith, allowing your shoulders to relax, your belly to soften, your forehead to let go all the while knowing you are a luminous beautiful sensual being.

How To Be Sexier Secret #4: The More You Stop, the Easier Motherhood Becomes.It's natural to want to be a perfect mom, to avoid mistakes that add up to years of therapy. The truth, however, is that that more you can stop trying to be perfect, stop feeling guilty for taking time for your self, stop worrying about how your kids are when you're not with them, stop beating yourself up that you can't get everything done that you used to before the kids, stop holding yourself to a standard that others have for you, the easier motherhood becomes.

Motherhood truly becomes an opportunity to love yourself, forgive yourself and be tender with yourself which translates into a radiant patient loving presence for your child and family. People feel safe around you because you're at peace with who you are. Now that's the embodiment of a sexy woman.

How To Be Sexier Secret #5: Reviving Your Energy and Your Sanity

Moms, we have to fill our tanks up first so we have something to give our kids and partners. Giving to ourselves first is the hardest when the to-do list is never ending and we feel guilty for leaving our little ones. For quick energy boosts, try combining your strolling time with an uplifting guided meditation CD, nap while they are napping even though the laundry won't get done, you'll be a more patient and happy mom when all awaken. Have a good cry in the bath once they're asleep- releasing stuck energy gives a huge blast of energy. Put on some dance tunes and even get on the coffee table with your kids (yes, I do that and it's amazing!). Moving our bodies and remembering we're sensual creatures lifts our energy and is a sexy surprise for your partner when he walks through the door!

Never forget you are not just beautiful, you are beauty.

You are not just sensual, you are Sensuality itself.

You are an amazing woman, a gift to your children,

your partner, your friends and community.

You are a light in this world.

Do all you can to shine fully by taking good care of yourself,

taking time for yourself,

and being exactly who you are.