Having an orgasm during intercourse eludes many women. Complicating this issue is the fact that a female body can be quite puzzling even to women. Read on to discover the tricks to turn a woman on effectively in bed.

(1) Offering her ‘circular’ touching

When you touch her during foreplay, you use your fingertips to trace slow, soft circles and waves along her forearms, neck, the palms of her hand, the area around her nipples, the area around her clitoris and any other sensitive body spot. This circular touch can electrify the nerves under her skin more than the straight line up and down motion.

(2) Observe her body response and interpret cautiously

A man should not just focus his attention on her breasts and vagina. Her erogenous zones can be found elsewhere – the ears, behind the ears, neck, the part of the back that meets the buttocks as well as the buttocks itself, the back of the legs, the knees, the feet – and she generally needs these areas to be stimulated before she can get aroused below the belt.

Her body signals can be puzzling. If her nipples do not get erected after several minutes of oral stimulation, this does not mean she is not aroused, she just needs a little bit extra time, and some guys misinterpret the signs and stop kissing and squeezing her breasts.

The same thing can happen elsewhere to other parts of her body. When she is close to climax, her clitoris can suddenly play hide-and-seek and disappear under the hood. Again, some guys wrongly assume she is not interested and stop stimulating her clitoris, just when she is dying for her partner to keep going. The reason her clitoris retracts is because she is close to orgasm, not because she has lost interest.

Another sign that a guy can interpret wrongly is the amount of lubrication a woman produces. How wet she gets does not necessarily reflect how turn on she is. Some men make the mistake in thinking that because a woman have become wet, it is time to move on to the main action, just when she wants her guy to stimulate her some more.

(3) Listen to her verbal cues

Due to her confusing body signals, it is therefore better to get her to speak up. This means encouraging her to voice each and every of her sensation (in accordance to how much she is being turned on) during the lovemaking session. Get her to use words like "I love that"; "Oh, my God!" or "Yes, yes, yes!" .This feedback allows the guy to tailor his moves to ‘feed’ her sexual pleasure.

If she is shy to speak up, she can demonstrate to her partner how she likes to be stimulated. For example, she can put his forefinger into her mouth and suck it in a way to show him, how she likes him to use his tongue to pleasure her. She can also take his hand to guide him to where she likes to be touched and if she likes him to put extra pressure on a particular spot, she can signal him by squeezing his hand a little harder to indicate her preference.

(4) Offer double stimulation

While stimulating her clitoris with your mouth or tongue, you can use your hand(s) to fondle her breasts. The super sensitive nerves in the nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina. Therefore pinching or rubbing her nipples while giving her oral sex will drive her wild. Later you can switch to using your tongue to lick her breasts or your mouth to nibble on her nipples while you finger her clitoris. You can switch this a few times according to her needs. This combination of 2 different sensations – the softness of his mouth plus the firmer stroke of his fingers – will bring her to a climax she never experiences before.

(5) Combine muscle flexing and proper positioning

About 70% of women are not able to have an orgasm during intercourse. This is because the normal missionary position does not offer much chance to stimulate her clitoris and/or G-spot. A solution for this is not to let her hips or lower part of the body to lie flat against the bed, instead try to lift the hips as far away from the bed as you can. This can increase your chance of hitting her G-spot. One of the ways you can do this is to put a pillow under the lower part of her body or you rest both of her legs on your shoulders and make her legs point straight towards the ceiling. Entering her from behind is also another easy to hit her G-spot. Woman-on-top position will increase your chance to stimulating her clitoris.

Besides positioning, a woman can help herself to increase the chance of having an orgasm by flexing her muscles during sex. When a guy is thrusting, she can contract and release the muscles that stop urine flow. This contraction can create a squeezing sensation on the male sexual organ (making him feel big), slow down his rapid thrusting while it heightens the G-spot stimulation. The end result is mutual pleasure and higher chance of simultaneous orgasm.