Reaching the top most peak of orgasm for women is like finding your way through the streets of China. It has lots of twist and turns and U- turns; you can get lost and end up being laughed at or gotten angry at. But if you can discover the way to females orgasm, you will be greatly rewarded. There are so many ways to reach that elusive orgasm. It will not be as elusive if you both parties pay attention to each other. It usually takes both parties’ efforts and proper communication to have that fulfilling and orgasmic experience. For women, the number one rule is to be comfortable with yourself.

You cannot and will not enjoy yourself with another person if you don’t like yourself- your body. Learn to wear your skin with confidence and sensuality. Those flabby flaws will always be there- accept it, love it, enjoy it. Also try exploring yourself- masturbation can be another way of exploring pleasure with yourself and another is finding-out which part of your body gives you most pleasure. Is it the soft kiss in the neck, the thigh, and the toes or on the back? It is important to realize other crevices of pleasure in your body aside from your vagina. Foreplay is very important in having a gratifying orgasm.

This is where both of you creates the mood. Soft-lit room, romantic music, sexy aroma… creating a conducive ambiance for sex and pleasure. In foreplay, being comfortable and not uptight is critical to prevent embarrassments. Having an "it’s okay" state of mind can help both of you to go with the flow of your bodies and your urges. Communicating is a fundamental course in intercourse. Never be a shamed to tell your partner what sexually excites you. Don’t be uncomfortable to say where your erogenous zones are. Inform your partner how you want to be fondled in certain areas and the intensity of the pressure.

If you want him to give you more licking at the back tell him so. Besides both of you are after pleasure, right? So don’t be embarrassed. Giving suggestions and propositions can be quite exciting, too. The excitement of experimenting in love- making can heighten the female’s orgasm. Experimenting, like role playing or using props- like hand cuffs, blind-folds, vibrators whip creams, ice creams, and those modern topical cream products which enhances female’s libido and orgasm can make your sex life more enjoyable and fun. Of course, making- love is not complete without giving each other oral sex, it has to be given in both persons concerned- it is fact that every body loves it and anyone who says otherwise is a supreme hypocrite.

A balance of taking and giving pleasure is critical. For men, remember that ramming your penis inside your partner’s vagina like a rabbit will never give her the orgasm she needs. It is a must for men to know where the clitoris is (duh!) and to stimulate it appropriately. Vaginal stimulation alone seldom gives the woman orgasm. It is the heat of the foreplay and the stimulation of the clitoris that makes the woman reach the ever longed for orgasm. Learn to listen not just with your ears but also with your eyes. Body language can send a lot of messages in love-making.

This only shows that communication is not only important outside the bedroom but it is just as important inside the four-walls of the bedroom. Having healthy communication inside the bedroom is a form of intimacy that can build a deeper bond between the both of you. Making- love is a gift, take pleasure in it, indulge in it..Enjoy!