Having a fight in a marriage life is completely normal; however, you may get to a certain point where the issue appears to be unsolvable and your wife determines that a breakup is the only answer. Usually, most guys that have experienced this wind up alone in their place while keep battering the same question to themselves: "how to get my wife back?"

Well, people always realize the value of something once they’ve lost it, therefore it is a common scenario that could happen to anyone. Then again, the breakup is already take place and you don’t want to take the incorrect action from here.

At this point, you may have stopped asking "how to get my wife back" and come up with a "simple" solution. It's the easiest way that any married men can think: making use of the kids. However, saying something like "I feel bad for the kids to be taken away from from their mom" or "How about Cindy? It will be hard for her to be away from her father" won’t help. It is like you take your own kids as "hostages" and she’ll despise you for that.

Additionally, realize that another "threats" such as tell her that you will mess with her reputation, job, and her current love life (if she has any) will only act as a proof that you are indeed a JERK.

You must also know how to get your wife back without shattering your manhood. What I mean here is begging for her forgiveness, following her everywhere, text messaging her 50 times every day, and so forth. Acting needy like this won't get you anywhere since it will only make her avoid you; it's also possible that she will block your number since you keep annoying her with your calls.

"Then tell me Alan, how to get my wife back?" Here are a few simple steps that will help:

1. Think for a while whether the relationship is worth to be saved and fight for. If it's worth and you are ready to put your time and efforts into it, go for it.

2. Do not freak out or act in a rush; evaluate what's the problem that trigger the breakup and what you should do about it.

For the first action, I suggest you switch to her side by AGREEING with the breakup. You can do this by send her a hand written letter and tell her that you have been think it over for a while and you think that she is right concerning the breakup.

3. Once you’re on her side and she is comfortable by you being around her once again as a friend, show her that you're not the old you and you’ve changed for the better. Start to put some efforts into reignite the old sparks and try get a "friendly" date several times. When you're able to do that, you can proceed to the next level: win her back!

Obviously, it is not as simple as it may look. She might accept you being around her after you go along with the breakup, but she will have an "invisible wall" (her image of your old self) that will repel your attempt to attract her once again. You need to proceed slowly and do what's right at the right time.