Marriages just don’t last in the United States today, and it’s a shame to see a good thing go to waste. If you look at why women leave husbands, you can see that all these problems are easy to solve if you’d just take the time to work them out. Here are the 4 reasons why women leave husbands, and what can be done about them.

Problem 1 – He is Not Working Hard Enough

Marriage requires a lot of work, and if you’re married, you know very well what I mean. But many women leave their husbands because they think that he is stopped putting the effort into it. When women see their partners begin to turn them off, it’s the beginning of the end. She feels like she’s putting in all the effort, and she figures "Why bother?"

This is difficult for men to realize. Usually, they think that they are working hard at their work, and this is their contribution to the relationship. They’re worn out by this contribution, and it makes THEM feel unappreciated and leads to resentment. But, what she is talking about is emotional commitment.

What You Can Do – Spend time together. Schedule it, like it’s an appointment with a client or customer. Make time together and keep it focused on both of you. It’s just as simple as that.

Problem 2 – Where is The Affection?

Aside from his time and effort, women also need affection. This naturally dwindles down from the first date to 30 years of married life. Yet – you cannot allowed this to happen! It’s just as important now as it was when you were first dating. Lots of guys don’t realize this.

Without that spark of affection, a marriage becomes a partnership and nothing more. It might not even be a friendship anymore, and this is serious. Contrary to popular belief, women need love, affection and intimacy a lot more than men do, and this includes what goes on in the bedroom.

What You Can Do – Start going out on dates just as before. Go back to those enchanting beginning days. Spend some time making a little love.

Problem 3 – You Simply Don’t Listen

Within her needs, a woman also needs to be listened to. Plenty of women report their husbands’ failure to pay attention as reason number one. Essentially, the issue is not that men don’t listen; it’s that they simply cannot stop themselves from offering their ideas and trying to "fix" things. It’s part of a man’s primal nature, I suppose.

What You Can Do – Ask her about her day, after that shut up and listen when she’s talking. Ask her open-ended questions like "How did that make you feel?" Don’t worry about solutions; your listening is enough.

Problem 4 – Cheating

This one is quite easy to understand. He has an affair, she finds out, and then it’s finished. Nevertheless, there is a deeper truth concealed behind it. Having an affair is marriage suicide and the majority of men understand it. You fully aware that your wife won’t give you a second chance if she finds out. No other woman’s truly worth all that, and you know it.

Whenever a woman finds out that her husband’s had an affair, it opens a whole Pandora’s Box of bad feelings about him. Additionally, it uncovers all her negative feelings about herself. This double whammy is more than most women can handle, and that’s why it’s time for divorce.

What You Can Do – Men who are cheating should QUIT right now, and then try to find the actual motives why they’re doing it. This is the real problem, and once you solve this, you’ll be happy in your marriage again. If your wife caught you (believe me, she will; it's just a matter of time), you will have a long painful process to win her trust back.

A marriage takes work. When she’s thinking about leaving, it’s time to get started fixing things. Only you can save your marriage.