There are a lot of people asking themselves whether they can get back to the past relationship or not. Asking the question "Will my ex come back?" is a good thing to think about. The truth is you can get back together with your ex if you are willing to put some time and efforts into it. If you really want your ex to come back you will need to do the right things to have them reconsider your split so that you can get back together.

Figuring out whether or not they are still interested is the vital thing to getting into the mode of having them to come back to you. Plainly asking them may be too sudden and will commonly break off any possibilities if you are overly aggressive. Sending a woman flowers to her office (or residence) while letting them know that they're from you with your number is a great way to get her to contact you. If trying to get the attention of a man, ensure that your response is thoughtful and provocative enough for them to want to contact you back.

Step 1 - Rekindling the interest

The initial step is rekindling the fascination that they seen in you when you first met. Why did they fall for you to begin with? Being charming, attractive or other reasons which are merely situational are not an ideal way to start off. Make sure that you fully grasp the value you had in their eyes and make an effort to display those qualities and improve on them.

Step 2 - Meet up with them

The next step is to setup a possible meeting with them. It may take some persuasion to get them to meet you again, particularly when the break up was their decision. Make it so that you could get together and talk. Try to avoid talk about any problems between you or them but simply allow them to see the new you and just how you have improved. Should they enjoyed hanging out with you then propose the possibility of trying a relationship over.

One of the major hurdles that lots of people trying to get back together with their ex's will run into is the fact that their ex is unwilling to try. That's where some convincing skill will come in handy. Asking about a second chance with a trial relationship might help to encourage them to agree for a chance for you to convince them that you are worthy of being their love interest. Ensure that your wishes of reversing the breakup are known and that this is not an invitation to be friends with benefits.

Most ex lovers will want to try to get back together but could have reservations about what they will do with you. Some might even prefer to start from scratch with no kisses until a few dates later. Others will want to jump right into sex for that "makeup" session. It is best to wait until you two are actually back together and are both comfortable with getting physically involved again before sex takes place again. Alternatives to full on sex may be an excellent way to keeping each other involved while the relationship is reconstructed.

Step 3 - Laying down a solid base for the relationship

The last step is really laying down the foundation for the relationship. Lay all the cards on the table, be truthful about what both of you need and expect from each other. You should also talk about the commitment issues and compromises that have to be made. Getting everything covered before officially reconciling and becoming a couple again will help you both to know each other's expectations of the relationship and will drive you both towards meeting them to ensure the relationship works this time around.