It won’t be easy to get over the break up, but here are some steps on what to do after a break up that you can try. Getting your ex back does not need to be complex, but we do tend to make a few improper actions because we're reacting upon our emotions rather than using logic and sense. Here are some quick and easy steps for you to follow that will point you in the right direction.

Tip 1. A common mistake that we make, is wrongly thinking that we can talk our ex in coming back to us. As our ex remains cold and distant, we will usually end up becoming emotional. This is not really a state that we want our ex to see us in, as they will pull themselves further away. They realise that we are doing all this for our own benefit, and we invariably cause a scene, which in turn makes them feel uncomfortable. Be calm and co-operative and act against your feelings and by allowing them the space they need.

Tip 2. Whilst allowing them space and during this period of no contact, it is wise to keep yourself as active as possible and get moving. Get out and about, as the more you stay in one place, obsessing about the relationship, the likelihood is that you will want to contact your ex. Start doing things that make you feel good, exercise and hang out with your friends, do whatever makes you happy. You do have control over your own experiences, but you don't have control over what your ex wants to do. Going out and about and enjoying your time, really is better than staying at home all day feeling sad. Either way the outcome will be the same.

Tip 3. Now is time to gradually get back in touch, it is good to make them aware that you do still care, and that you are appreciative of all the lovely memories, that you have shared together. Appear upbeat and happy, and tell them that you would be happy to catch up as friends sometime. You may ask, how will this bring them back to you. If you think how the relationship started in the first place. Remember, that they did not fall in love with you, because you begged them to date you. It all happened slowly, and you will have to let them slowly, open up to you again.

Tip 4. Gradually after time, and things are going slowly well, approach the subject of going on a date together. Treat this at an un-serious date, and if the thought of the word date scares them, treat it as two friends hanging out together. This is a good way for them to rationalize to themselves, that it is not really a date.

Standing back from the situation will help you easily spot the problem areas in your relationship and that is when you are able to empower yourself. What is important is having a renewed self esteem and feeling good about yourself. Your confidence should light up a room every time you enter.