If you are thinking about winning your ex boyfriend back, then there are two possible causes of the breakup: you cause the problem or another girl stole your boyfriend. Now, don’t think that the first scenario is better than the last. Yes, there is no competitor, but keep in mind that your past mistakes will not easily forgiven.

Here is what you must do to win him back:

Jelousy will only worse the matter

Many girls believe that they are able to have another guy to pretend to be their new lover and make their ex boyfriend jealous. Well, this is a blunder. Even if he's jealous, his man’s pride will not permit him to admit it. You might even get the total opposite effect: he gets a new girlfriend immediately to show you that he is fine without you as you are "fine" without him.

Leave him on his own for a while

Men always think more with logic than emotion. Let him assess the situation post the breakup by himself. Let him re-analyze his decision to break up with you. Simply being without you for some time will give him a specific experience where he must determine something important: is it better now being without you? Or is it worse?

Find the root of the problem and fix it

You might be able to get him back by your side, but if the issue is still unresolved, the new relationship won't hold for long. Should the issue is you, you need to recognize it and try to fix it. Do you know the problems? Is it cheating? Were you being too choosy? Were you being ungrateful? Explore yourself and make an actual effort to solve those problems.

Should the cause was another girl, you've still got to look for the main problem. Were you being too ignorant and didn’t care too much about his issues? When another girl take over your role to comfort him in his difficult times, it is obvious that he will value her more than he sees you (even though you are his "acknowledged" girlfriend). You may not realize it, but you could be the one who drove him to her with your unsympathetic attitudes.

Needless to say, there is also possibility that he is only a jerk who likes to hop to a new girl’s embrace whenever he’s bored with his current girl. In cases like this, look for a better boyfriend. At the very least, you deserve that.

Initiate contact

If you are determined that he is worth to fight for, try to initiate contact. Utilize any method that you can imagine: messages, e-mails, phone, or just "accidentally" bump into him at his favorite spot. Once you do meet him, you goal isn’t to beg him to take you back. Pleading and being desperate are the one which kill the attraction fast, so never do that.

Your primary priority is to make sure that he is aware of your changes. You can reinforce this changes impression by altering your appearance: different clothes, different hairstyle, and so on. Nonetheless, the most crucial point is showing him that you already throw away your entire negative behaviors and have become a new better person.

If the first meet up is going smoothly, follow with second, third, and so on. Re-introduce the spark in the relationship and show him that you’re better than his current girlfriend (if there is any). The whole process won't happen overnight; you have to devote some time and real efforts into it. In the end, you will have him back.