For some guys, having a breakup is not the end of a relationship. To fix the broken relationship is not that hard, that is the reason why they are positive that one day they are able to begin rebuilding their relationship again. You must be interested in finding out how to win her back if you are in this situation. Rest assured that you are not alone. They concentrate their efforts on all the wrong thing that happens to them is the reason why most of these men cannot do it correctly.

When you are unattainable for a while, it does not guarantee that the case is resolve.

It is really bugged me that a lot of advices and guides in this matter simply suggest that you should "went missing" for a while, then get back and act like all the matters has been resolved automatically with your "disappearance". The dumb principle behind this theory is that when you leave her alone for some time, your ex girlfriend will get all depressed and realize that she can’t live without you. You may simply come back, act like a jerk like you always do, and she will leap right to your arms.

The truth is, no matter how long you left her alone and no matter how much she actually missed you during your absence, you can’t win her heart for the second time if you stay oblivious to the actual matter. Why did the separation happen? Clearly, the explanation is that you have different beliefs. When you are eager to restore the relationship destroyed by circumstance, then, better perform the first move in creating negotiation on your part.

What does she admittedly craves from you? Are there any of your behaviors or attitude that always irritates her? You did take charge of her necessities, did not you? Were you a good listener when she confessed to you regarding her distress or vexations? When it comes to her weakness and things that she do not excel, did you judge her in a just and balance manner?

After a long time of disappearance, you showed up suddenly and did not change; she would definitely not incline to you anymore because she suffered a trauma before and for her it was a bad memory. When you resurfaced and proved to her that you corrected your wrong doings in the past and presented yourself in a whole new you, she would no doubt give you another chance to rekindle with her once again.

No, using jealousy won’t work

The second mistake that I noticed a lot is many guys get another girlfriend immediately and show his new partner to his ex girlfriend to make her jealous. He is expecting to impel her to confess that she has still attachment towards him, afterwards he could articulate that I am continuously yearning with you, and a load of BS he set earlier. Dumping his present girlfriend and claiming the prize that is his ex woman is the next stage of the plan.

Sounds good? Well, most of the time, this tactic will get you to one of these scenarios:

• She’s working to get a new boyfriend immediately and the two of you end up being in a miserable relationship for the sake of pride

• Getting over her so fast makes her hate you.

• She’s thinking "Thank god that jerk already has someone else. Maybe this time he’ll stop bugging me."

When your strategy involves jealousy, it would not get you anywhere.

So, how to get your ex girlfriend to want you back? Focus to solve the issue on your side and do not waste your time for a quick fix, it does not help. Other thing that you should do is to learn how to compromise, prove to her that you matured now and finally renew your relationship for a better tomorrow. There is big hope to get a second chance if she still deeply in love with you.