When a partner cheats on you it hurts a lot, it also knocks your confidence. It does get a bit ridiculous when a couple only meet once or twice and then the one complains the other cheated. You are not a couple if you have just dated for a short time. This article refers to proper couples who have known each other for a decent length of time and made commitments and promises to each other.

For many years I worked as a life coach and during those years I helped a lot of people with their relationship problems. Most were about being a cheat or being with a cheat and all of the problems that it caused. Where most of the people went wrong is to say that their problem was that their husband had gone with a neighbour. Then when married men who cheat tried to blame the neighbour instead of the husband, then tried to order the husband not to do such a thing again, without any thought to WHY it had happened in the first place, or that no matter what they tell him he will want to do it again and probably will if he gets the chance. People who have been hurt by a cheat often consult ask agony aunt.

Some people are not cut out to be in a serious long term relationship, and they will cheat on whoever they are with. People used to get married for all sorts of silly reasons! Now maybe it is a good thing that less people get married.

Others get married to the wrong person or rush into marriage because of a pregnancy or to please someone and then the cheating is a sign of that. Those people may not be real cheats, they may be faithful to the right one, but they are with the wrong one. But they should sort out their bad marriage and get a divorce first before cheating. And not rush into another relationship that will also turn out to be a mistake.

When a cheating married man is found out he generally says he is sorry but he means he is sorry he was found out, he will still do it again given the chance. For help with married men who cheat I suggest you go to the he forum, chat room and many other things, where you understand people and relationships without spending a penny at a good site I recommend for relationship issues. I should know, I was a full-time well known expert myself for many years. You can see much of my expert advice for free at askagonyaunt.com.