Are you looking to get your ex back? As you should know, it is not an easy task. You perhaps have different kinds of strategies and thoughts about what you need to do to get him / her back. It is no doubt that if you want to be together with him or her, it takes some serious planning.

Like many things in life, mistakes often occurred in relationships. So just learn from them and take actions to rectify it. Do not waste too much time feeling remorse about your actions in the past. More importantly, you now know you feel that you deserved another chance so just focus the actions that will bring the two of your closer.

So how to get your ex back?

The first step you need to do is to find the "why" you want to be with your ex back. If the positive out weights the negative, you will indeed have a case to get back with your ex. If you are just doing it just to keep "competitors" and "prospects" away, do not do it. Revenge is NOT sweet!

But if you really intend to get your ex back as you miss him / her dearly, then by all means, just give it a go!

Get Back Your Ex Tip # 1 - 3Ws - What Went Wrong?

Do find out why you broke up in the first place. Take some time and just sit down do this simple exercise. Just spend 5 minutes and write down the reasons. Do not scan your memories from your thought without writing! Trust me on this. If you just put it all in your thoughts, you will get confuse easily due to various emotions involved. And when emotions come into play, you need some structured tasks to keep things more "rational"

Do look at every aspects of your relationship. Most likely there were things that he or she did not like and no doubt that you got to admit that you were not perfect either.

When you realize what went wrong, do planned for some suggestions to rectify them. This is extremely important. After all if nothing is changed, everything will be back to the same situation and there will be the same problems as last time. You certainly do not want that.

Get Back Your Ex Tip # 2 - Change is needed!

Perhaps some attitude adjustment such as controlling your anger and emotions are needed. If you have poor habits such as spending excessively or always not on time, you ought to chunk them aside.

The bottom line is that both of you need to demonstrate that you are willing and ready for some changes. And the only way to do this is through actions. Keep in mind that the actions got to be consistent. It is not a onetime thing and then you go back to your original ways.

Get Back Ex Tip # 3 - Meet Up

This step might be so simple but most people surprisingly do not do it, especially due the information age that we are living today. Instead of meeting up, they will use Facebook, Skype, emails and phone calls and sms to convey their "case". All these create impersonal messages and sometimes miscommunication occurs, which you definitely do not want!

Do not shy away from setting up a meeting with your ex. A phone call works the best to make arrangement to meet. Remember, it is not about saving embarrassing but getting the love of your life back! Just make the call. By meeting up face to face, the two of you can see if there is hope for the relationship. You can see the emotions and body language of him / her clearly. Do discuss about all your problems and issues. Just see where the discussion is headed. Certainly, commitment and dedication in communications skills are crucial to getting back together.

The early bird gets the worm. In relationship, this applies too. If you begin your reconciliation process early, it will definitely be a higher chance that you will get him / her back.

The first reunion will be the step that will determine the successful rate of your getting back together.