Are you happy with your sex life? Are you happy with the amount of sex you have? If you want to turn a woman on and make her want you more, read on.

(1) Touch her properly

Every woman likes to be touched because this gives her feelings of warmth and comfort. The way you touch her will differentiate between giving a good touch and a bad touch. Before she is really in the mood if you just reach out and grab her breasts, buttocks or genitals, this will make her feel like objectification, not affection. This is bad touch. It will only get her upset and react defensively – a big turn off. Your behavior looks desperate to her. Being patient is a better way to getting sex than aggressive advances.

What is good touch? You can try hugging, kissing or holding and squeezing her hands. Women want to feel connected to their partners in ways that do not always involve sex. Men are very mechanical and visual. When a guy sees something sexy, he can get aroused very quickly and go straight into sex.

Women, on the other hand, are very emotional. You have to get her in the mood first. You have to make her feel sexy before she can act sexy. Some research studies show that if you hug a woman for 30 seconds it can raise her oxytocin level. Oxytocin is a hormone that makes her feel loved and connected and helps put her in the mood. So start with a hug.

(2) Do not believe what you see in porn

Porn is supposed to be entertaining so as to encourage you to keep watching. Almost all of the porn movies are created by men and for men, who do not have a clue about what really turns a woman on. The brain is a woman’s main sex organ. In order to turn her on, you have to work on her brain first by seducing her and making her feel comfortable. Women crave pleasure and sex but they do not want it to look like some third-rate porn production. If you are in doubt about what can turn her on, ask her.

(3) Pleasure her first and she will pleasure you back

You have to provide her with the kind of sex she wants. You have got to give as good as you get. If you want to receive oral sex, you have to give her oral pleasure first. Most women can orgasm best from clitoral stimulation. You can stimulate the clitoris with your tongue, fingers, vibrator or your sex organ using the rear entry or woman on top position.

(4) Give her some space

It is a good idea to let your partner have some time for her own to help her recharge. Offer to watch the kids for a few hours so she can meet a friend for a few hours so she can meet a friend for coffee, read a book, or relax in a bubble bath. This ‘time off’ can let her wind down so that later she will be more ready to heat up later.

(5) Talk and listen to her

During dating, men like to talk a lot in order to seduce, attract and win a woman’s heart. After she becomes your wife, most men just do not have the patience to talk and they just want to do it. In the long run, this can cause her to get bored with sex.

Remember what I just said that a woman’s brain is her main sex organ. In order to arouse her, you have to connect to her mentally and emotionally. Couples who communicate well with one another tend to have a more active sex life. Spend 20 minutes talking and listening to her can make her feel appreciated. Avoid stressful topics and stick to larger issues like current events and the world around you. If you can remember and repeat something she said few hours ago, she will be more impressed and you will be one step closer to sex.