Why do people cheat?

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  • Author Jon Duskey
  • Published May 1, 2012
  • Word count 715

So, why do you cheat? The question for YOU becomes this:

Why are you choosing this? What are the lessons that you need to learn so that you won't need to attract cheaters into your life?

...And why do you get bored so easily and crave other women when you have a perfectly good woman at home?

I don't know what the answers will be for you, but I'll play psychiatrist a little bit to help you get started.

First of all, realize that you are not alone. I think it's fair to say

that most men and women in our society end up having to answer those tough questions at some point in their lives. I know plenty of couples that are in a GOOD RELATIONSHIP but can't quite shake off this nagging feeling that somehow the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence...They become BORED of each other and start taking each other for granted.

I think the MAIN REASON for this pattern of behavior is quite simple to

understand, yet difficult to resolve.

Here goes:

Most people have no idea what it truly means to love the Self.

They understand the concept MENTALLY, but have no clue how to actually DO IT. In my own quest to solve every single dating, sex, and relationship puzzle known to man, I often stumbled upon books that repeated over and over "one must learn to fully love the Self before one can truly love another human being".

BUT I JUST DIDN'T GET IT.

I did not understand what this meant (in my heart).

I thought, "What am I supposed to do? Say 'I love you' in the mirror???" This "airy-fairy" kind of advice frustrated me to no end, until I finally turned to the 'seduction community' so that I could learn all of these 'attraction tips and tricks'.

Then I was even MORE confused...

But dear readers, the world is truly your mirror. If you are bored with your girlfriend, it's often because you are bored

with yourself. Now, we've all been socially conditioned to get attention, validation and love FROM OTHER PEOPLE. When women love us, it gives us a real boost (to say the least). The thrill of the chase... observing a woman become attracted and eventually falling in love with us REALLY HELPS to validate our self-worth!

On the other hand, worrying about what other people think, and suffering the blows of rejection causes many people to actually avoid interacting with women in the first place.

All of these core problems come down to one simple truth: Most of us are living in the first 3 Chakras, and have not yet learned how

to elevate our consciousness into the 4th dimension (Heart Chakra).

For a less complicated sounding and more down-to-earth explanation, we are seeking love and self-worth OUTSIDE of ourselves.

THAT'S why we become bored, even though LOGICALLY we have a good woman at home and shouldn't be. First, we experience the thrill of the chase... and the first few weeks of feeling wonderful together... all the wonderful sharing and sex...

...And next thing you know, 6 months have transpired and we're watching a movie with our girlfriend when a hot girl appears on the television screen and we silently wish that we could be with HER instead. Even though we love our girlfriends, we can't help but find ourselves

"mentally shopping around". All of a sudden, EVERY other girl starts to seem more attractive than the woman we love. And we feel guilty about it.

It's because we still seek to validate our self-worth FROM THE OUTSIDE.

We haven't learned to cultivate a REAL relationship with the Self.

Can you LOVE yourself so completely that you never, ever judge yourself

for anything whatsoever? Can you LOVE every single aspect of yourself, even those "dark" aspects? Can you LOVE every thought, every body part, and every "flaw"? Can you let go of every negative thought that you have about yourself - all of the worry, all of the guilt, all of the shame? Can you stop right now and say the words "I ACCEPT MYSELF FULLY AS I AM" congruently?

I promise you that this is the most challenging (yet rewarding) path you can take at this time.

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