If you're in a situation where it looks like the luster has come off of your marriage, or it is beginning to look like your wife doesn't love you anymore, it is sad. Still, though it is sad it is very common and fortunately, it is a correctable situation under many circumstances.

Yes, it is possible for love to dwindle away and when this happens there are times when it is just not worth it to pursue getting the bloom back on the rose, so to speak. If this is the case, making your wife fall in love with you once again will be difficult, at best. Then again, romances have been rekindled and relationships that looked like they have been given up on have become hot again.

One of the keys to becoming successful in getting your wife to love you again is to make up your mind you will work hard to regain her love by changing any bad habits or vices you may have developed since the first time she fell in love with you.

Physical attraction isn't everything. However, if you have let yourself go this may have something to do with your wife losing interest in you. This isn't so because of the pure romantic aspect of your relationship but because it shows a sloppiness or a willingness to accept low standards. Maybe, she does not share these standards.

If you have gained a lot of weight or have become out of shape or let yourself go in other ways, make up your mind you will make a concerted effort to correct these things. If you do, it won't take very long before she will notice changes are taking place in your appearance and if the love is still there it will come out very evidently. Even if you've only been on a program to improve yourself for a little while it will show her you are making an effort and if there is anything still in her heart for you, this will make a world of difference!

Many times, there is no physical evidence that you have become complacent. In other words, you may still look just great. However, to her it might appear you haven't been making a strong effort to keep the family finances afloat or you have squandered money on your hobbies and interests at the risk of personally bankrupting your family.

If this is the case, once again you must look to yourself for the reason she has fallen out of love with you. If she sees you are trying very hard to give up spending money on things that are for you and using these resources to balance the checkbook, you will start to look like an absolute prince to her. This can make a big difference in whether or not she loves you. Even if you are unsuccessful in your quest to balance the checkbook, if the effort is there, so will her love for you be there.

Finally, a woman will never be able to stay madly in love with someone who totally ignores her. The remedy for this is simple. Pay some attention to her. Make it a point to talk with her and by all means, listen to what it is she has to say!

To recap, there is no real way to guarantee a woman who is fallen out of love with you can fall back in love with you. However, to give it your best shot you must:

• Make an effort to take care of yourself physically

• Be unselfish as far as the household finances are concerned, and

• Pay attention to her, or as Brothers Cornelius and Sister Rose so profoundly sang, "Treat Her Like A Lady."