Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most challenging task on the planet. It doesn't have to be though. Many men make it much more difficult than is required. You see, you've been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it's meant to be. That's not the case at all.

In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy suggestions you can follow that really can help you get her back. Below are a few things you should remember if you want to win her back.

Stop Living in the Past

Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." Living in relationship past robs both of you of all the joy of each day together when you're in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a very clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around.

Become the Man You WANT to Be

This is hard for most men. It's something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he'd become saying, "So, I'm forty, I'm not married, I don't fly jets, and I don't have a dog? I grow up to be a loser."

Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that does not mean you can't take measures to be the man you want to be -- even though that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you wish to be. Then you must handle the task of becoming that man.

How does that Help You Get the Girl?

Life doesn't always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to actually get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop looking to recapture a past that was not as picture perfect as you remember, you'll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she will WANT to be part of.