The topic of women and emotion is one to be reckoned with. If I had to choose from a list of thirty six topics on Women issues I would choose this topic, regardless of what the other topics might be. As a woman I have always been concerned about women’s issues. I feel pain when I see another woman in pain, whether emotional or physical. I feel sadness when they share their sad stories with me and when I am going through my issues all kinds of questions bombard my mind. But there is one thing that always amazes me is that fact that some women are so strong that they shake off the sadness and go on to create an abundant life through their faith and determination. If some women have done it, so can you.

I believe I have been called to work with women. It comes naturally to me and for as long as I can remember I have always found myself in a role where I am encouraging others, especially women. One of the things that I am puzzled about is that women are often victims of circumstance. Some women choose to remain in bad situations instead of getting out. I have listened to many women complain over and over year after year about the same issues and they do absolutely nothing about them. Naturally as I listener and one who tries to refrain from complaining, I would give my advice and what I have noticed time and again is that the advice is not taken and the complaining continues. This though is often by the minority. I have seen many who have created the changes necessary to put the past behind them and go on to create an abundant life.

As the listener I have been I sometimes feel like a victim, because I do not want to say anything that would cause the person to feel any worse than she already feels, but I really do not want to hear the story anymore. If you are not going to do anything about it, then for God’s sake stop talking about it. In one instance I remember asking one of my complaining friends if she ever tried talking to God about these things she has told me about so many times and told her it might be a good idea to try that approach, because obviously complaining to other human beings was not helping her .

This person withdrew from me. I missed her, but I certainly did not miss hearing her relentless complaints. I believe there are times in every woman’s life when their ability to think rationally is overcome by their emotions, but there is also a time when she must let go and move on. It is evident in many life stories that I have heard that countless women have done just that. They have learned the art of coping with their emotions and embraced abundance principles.

I can attest to this, because I have experienced moments when I was not thinking rationally and made mistakes that I have regretted. The problem is that when one is in those situations, it is difficult to recognize it and objectively assess the situation. For example, I can remember between two and four weeks after the births of my second and third children I cried uncontrollably for hours, because I felt that I could not take care of the babies.

I was a healthy woman, with a supportive family, but for reasons that I could not and still can not explain, in those moments I felt all alone and hopeless, even though I was happy as a lark during my pregnancy, (once I got through the first trimesters that is, since my experiences in the first trimesters were always horrible for me). To comfort me I remember my husband saying, "You do not have to worry about anything", but at that moment nothing he said could have comforted me. Nevertheless, after I bounced back from that moment and other unpleasant moments that I experienced in my life, I returned to my abundance mindset and living.

There were other times when the pain and discomfort during my struggle with fibromyalgia, would rip through my muscles, temporarily snatching me from reality. These were times when people became targets of my grumpy mood. In some cases I just avoided people as much as I could. As a woman, mother, daughter, sister, wife, friend, teacher counselor, life and career, coach, wellness consultant and author among other things, I have had my share of emotional traumas and dramas. My goal is to help women in need whether physically, spiritually, socially, financially or emotionally, anyway that I can help.

I look at Britney Spears in the tabloids decorating the magazine racks in the stores and watching the pathetic stories about her on TV and I wonder where this girls mind is and can’t somebody help her? This is the other extreme, she had it all, abundance, good look , popularity and everything seemed to be going right:, then suddenly she has fallen apart. I pray that her life will be turned around and she can begin to truly live in the abundance that can never be taken away from her..

Different types of emotions and the reasons for them

Circumstances such as divorce, sexual, verbal, physical, emotional abuse, abortions, are often determinants of a woman’s emotional status. A part of the problem is that women blame themselves and others for their situations. They find it hard to forgive themselves and others. Women have to learn to cope with these situations, giving up blaming, condemning, unforgiving, justifying mentality and by leaving the issues of the past where they belong (in the past) and making the decision to move forward. Use those adversities as victories, now that you have overcome them. These things are really opportunities instead of adversities, because you learn and grow from them and you use them to help others hope again. The things that the enemy means for bad, God means for good. It these things that we use to create the abundance in our lives.

Tools for coping with emotions.

Women have to use various strategies to manage their emotional lives and create abundance . A good place to start is to recognize that there is a problem and be willing to do what ever it takes to control it . It is in healing the wounds that cause emotions that we find the peace we need to sustain us. Jesus has called people to come to Him if they are weary and heavy laden. He says to learn of Him because his yoke is easy and his burden is light.

He has promised peace, joy and happiness, so no one as to remain emotionally maimed except is by choice. Use meditation, take time to rest, exercise, occupy your time with you hobbies and find a buddy to team up with. A simple walk in the park is a great stress reliever, whether by yourself or with someone. Spiritual pursuit is my number one recommendation and when I speak of spiritual I am not talking about New Age fluff or any of that stuff. I am coming strictly form a Biblical stand point, adding nothing or taking anything away. When we learn tie up all the loose ends or put the puzzle pieces together, we find the balance we need to create abundance.